Why the heck is it so hard to change?


Change is inevitable.

Even if you resist change, it will still happen.

So why wait, or fret about changes that happen in your life?

Over the last couple of years, a lot has changed in my life.  Some changes for the better, some not so good.

For instance, once upon a time, I was naive enough to think that there were some things that would never change. Things like, I would move in the same circle of friends, I would continue down the same path in my career, I would never think of moving or selling my home, and I was staying in my church forever.

If you relate to any of that then you know that change happens whether you like it or not.  Friends suddenly move on, that career becomes not what you envisioned, and the Universe has a different plan that is not in a direction you can even imagine.

The most important thing to realize about change is its growth!  It's learning to flow with the stream instead of fighting against the tide.

It's understanding that you may grow in a different direction from friends and colleagues and when that happens it's OK to make new friends and new contacts.

Moving and changing to grow and expand is part of fulfilling your purpose.

So, why the heck is it so hard to change?

There are a couple of things:

1.  Old habits are hard to shake.

2. You have an enormous desire, though you don't know how to make it happen so you don't make a move.

3. You don't believe that your dreams and goals can really happen.

4. You are afraid of failure and the repercussions that you perceive come with that.

5.  You think you need to be perfect before you can achieve your goals and dreams.

All of these reasons are just thoughts coming from feelings that are preventing you from moving forward, changing your present, to achieve your future.


If this sounds like you, I can help you.

First grab my free resource The 5 Steps to Intentional Change.  HERE!

Then book a free consult with me and lets get you moving and embracing change in your life! HERE!


Have a great day!

How do I get unstuck?


How do you feel when you get stuck?

Do you feel overwhelmed, burned out, or just lose your motivation and inspiration?

I'm here to tell you don't beat yourself up because everyone at some point in their journey gets stuck.

There are ways to get unstuck and out of overwhelm and they're not as difficult as you might think.

These past couple of months have been a little tough in my household.  When you have a large family something is always going on, and when it's two or more then it can get a little hairy.  By that I mean, challenging!

So, how do I cope?  I'm going to give you some very easy things that I do that can get you back on track with your goals, dreams, relationships, and your life!

1.  The first thing is don't beat yourself up.  It's OK to pause!  By pause I mean take a breath.  Get off social media, or get on and have fun whichever one is less stressful.  SM can get overwhelming if you are using it for your biz, and not seeing the results you want.  Then again, it can be fun to do some silly reels and also watch some!

2.  Don't hustle all the time.  Consistency is what pays off.  That's in all areas of your life.  After cooking meals for my family for decades, I have to remind myself it's ok to let them cook.  They are all adults and CAN fend for themselves.  If you are cooking, enjoy it!  Take the time to enjoy making that new recipe and take in all the wonderful smells of the seasonings and veggies you are chopping and dicing.

3.  Do take time to meditate and/or pray.  I get stuck mainly because my mind gets cluttered and I don't have clarity.  When I recognize that, I immediately get out my Young Living Essential Oils and grab one that appeals to me as well as one I know will help clear my thoughts.  Using Essential Oils will help you get unstuck much faster than if you don't use them.

Remember feeling stuck or overwhelmed comes from your thoughts.  Changing your thoughts and clearing your mind will immediately get you going in the direction you want to again.


One thing to remember here is our thoughts attract similar thoughts.  So, if I am having low vibrating thoughts then that's where my mind is going to continue going unless I stop it.

Here's a link to a freebie S.T.O.P. that will help you from getting stuck in the first place!

Have an awesome week!

Are you still Sane and Healthy after the pandemic?



So, what is SANE???????

Well, I always say "insanity" is heredity, you get it from your kids, although I think these last couple of years have taken a toll on most Mamas.

Whether you've been homeschooling and working, or homeschooling and never getting a break, not being able to be as social as "normal," or feeling locked in, you've probably felt the shift in how feelings are flowing.

And, now things are starting to get going again, it's hard to find the new normal, the new sane, and get out of the sweatpants, and find out if you have been using food as a comfort just a tad too much!

With all of this craziness of the seemingly endless mask-wearing, non-socializing lifestyle comes fear.  Fear of being ill, fear of not being enough for everyone, fear surrounding teaching your kids, fear of your marriage coming to a place of disarray because of close quarters and short tempers.  Fear of the news, the numbers, what's coming next, and keeps you from being yourself, or what you once knew as yourself.

Fear comes in all forms and generally ends up with you feeding it unintentionally.  Food, wine, binge-watching Netflix because of the lack of social interaction with your peers.  It can make you overprotective of your kids, eat way more take-out than you should, and be frustrated as well as short-tempered.

So, what can you do as things begin to get back to what will become the "new normal?"  Here are a few tips:

1.  Let go of perfection.

Let's face it, this is not the time to even try to be the "perfect Mama!"  If, and I do mean IF, there is such a thing.  Perfection is FEAR!  Yup, fear of failing, fear of not being enough, fear of not getting your home is house and garden LOL!  Let perfection go, and the stress will ease up.

2. Having a schedule to manage the "unknown."

As a Mama of a very large family, routines and schedules are a must.  In the last couple of years, all of that had to be flexible and schedules had to be reworked to fit what was happening, both known, and unknown.  Kids feel way more secure with a routine, and when you have one in place, their behavior improves, and life gets to have more sanity and insanity!

3.  Calming the storms.

As much as you can feel overwhelmed and frustrated, so can kids.  In fact, your energy of anxiety, overwhelm, or frustration, will attract the same from your kids, and vice versa.  When they are acting out if you can take a breath and stay calm, your energy will cause them to be calm as well.  Sounds crazy?  No.  Two opposite energies cannot exist in the same space.  So keep your sanity by breathing your way and theirs to calmness.

4. Emotions are waves.

All feelings are waves, felt internal, and cannot last forever.  They will pass through and diminish if you are present, aware, and let them.  Emotions are waves until there is an action that then escalates the feeling into an emotion.  Emotions are feelings with actions.  It's not great to hide your feelings as they tend to build up and then explode as an action-packed emotion.  Let your kids know when you need a hug as well as comfort them when they need one.

5. Embrace every opportunity.

Kids are resilient, but they have feelings and emotions.  They have personalities, and if yours are anything like mine, they are all different.  Take every opportunity to make each child know they are understood, loved, and wanted.  Just like you can have thoughts of rejection, unworthiness, and loneliness, your kids can have those too.
Let them know you're their cheerleader as well as their Mama.

Please go and join my new FB group "Sane and Healthy Mamas"  Here's the LINK to do that!

Here's my signature program if you'd like to check that out.  It's all about being Sane and Healthy! CLICK HERE

If you'd like to chat over coffee (virtually) on the house, book a time HERE!  (That's 15 minutes' worth of gold!)

That's it for now!  Give yourself some love today!






New Year, New You!


Well, we all have New Year's resolutions right?

I can say for myself that I usually do and they are different goals for different parts of my life.  I actually love to look back at my diary and see what I wrote last year and how did that all go? I dreaded doing that this year because I really thought we would be through with this pandemic, and somehow magically biz and life would resume to somewhat what they looked like before.

Well, I'm pretty sure some of you can agree that 2021 seemed like a long 2020, and no, for the most part, things did not pan out like they used to.  I found myself pivoting, procrastinating, putting plans in place to find that people weren't ready to socialize, and feeling like life in some ways was great, but in other areas seemed to slide down the rabbit hole.

I'm not one to give up, and I know for sure you aren't, so as the seasons flowed through I realized I needed to stop swimming upstream and go with the flow.  Finding the flow was a bit tricky, but I knew it was out there if I just persisted, and find it I did.

Right now we are in the Holiday season where stress, and overwhelm can get us if we let it.  It's a season of too much food where we are tempted to overeat, or sometimes overdrink, in the spirit of being merry, and if we go too much with that flow our New Year's resolution will include losing the Christmas season's extra 10lb!

My resolutions for the next year have been tweaked and changed a little.  Oh, there'll be the usual biz goals, personal, spiritual, and growth goals, and also the goal to go with the flow of things.  Allow for the unexpected, give time to rest, and recuperate, make time for fun, laughter, prayer, and meditation, so life looks a little more balanced.

This year, I've lost some dear friends, not just to the pandemic, but to stress, resulting in lives being ended too soon.  It's made me stop and think about what life is really for.  Being abundant in all areas of my life, not just slogging away for finances, goals, cleaning, washing, cooking (unless I'm enjoying that,) making sure of my physical fitness, and attending to my quiet times as in prayer, and meditation.

This next year my motto is New Year, New You!

Did you find yourself in a similar situation?

What would you like to find that would transform your New Year into a New You?

Most women I know are wanting to finally get their ideal body, and their ideal mindset to enable them to not worry about always trying to fit into those jeans that really look great, and are just a bit too tight.


We can all go on diets, and I have done that just like you probably have, and I've found that to be tedious, stressful, and in the end, unsuccessful.  When I learned that to find my ideal body and keep it revolved around my mind, and mindfulness, that's when I found and kept the body that has served me well.

I have a wonderful group that is going to be full-on in the New Year as well!  There will be so much for you to grab, use, and get weightless!  Go join this FB group right now!  Whole Health, The Weightless School.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/wholehealththeweightlesschool


If you would like to chat with me about how you can ditch the diet and feel comfortable, attractive, and sexy in your skin, then go here and book a call with me.  Or click on this link: 

https://my.timetrade.com/book/VGH76

And, please accept my free gift to you, Six Ways to Fight Stress Fast!  Just click HERE!  Or follow this link: 

https://www.dropbox.com/s/fivpddlmjnr8cmy/Six-Ways-To-Fight-Stress-Fast.pdf?dl=0

Thanks for reading, grab that free resource and book a call!




Is Stress dulling your Pearl?



Hey there lovely!

I'm jumping right into it today, because as your world begins to open up, what is stopping you from resuming all of the things you want to?

What feelings are causing you maybe stay "frozen" in place?

Sometimes, your thoughts can spin so hard and with so many good reasons, that you end up feeling frozen in place, unable to move, for fear that something bad is going to happen.

Let me tell you something.  That's your brain trying to protect you.

That the brain that's been trained to listen to a lot of doom and gloom over the last 15 months.

That's the brain that's stored so much deep down within that its job now is to try to save you from..........

maybe nothing?

Our brains have this fight or flight pattern and most of the time, your brain wants you to flee!

Stay far away from anything that might harm you.

But wait a minute................. what if there's nothing to harm you?

I mean we're not out there hunting lions and tigers, so maybe our brain is filling our mind with irrational thoughts that aren't true anymore!

Stress has become too normal over these last months.

Stress may have become so normal you don't recognize it.

Your mind may now be conditioned into thinking certain thoughts around any stressful situation.

Why?

Because your brain is supposedly keeping you safe.

A stressor for me has been the now sudden OK for not wearing a mask in public places.

I know I'm covered, I've been vaccinated, but yet my brain has a wired path that tells me it's not ok, it's not safe, even if it is!

What's keeping you frozen?

And, if you are "frozen" what can help you get control of the fear your brain is sending to you.

Well, I have a gift for you today.

It's a short read and 6 Ways to Fight Stress Fast.

You can download it HERE!

Make sure you get your gift and treat yourself to ways to put that brain to rest.

I'm also having a retreat at my farm on Saturday, July 24th and you can find all the details

HAVE AN AWESOME WEEK!

Oh, I nearly forgot..................for a coffee chat with me, on the house, go

 
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