#law of detachment

Are you sick of that old habit? It's time for a CHANGE!


Changing old habits and creating new ones can be a challenging but rewarding process. The key to success is to understand the habit loop and use it to your advantage. The habit loop consists of a cue, a routine, and a reward. The cue is the trigger that initiates the habit, the routine is the behavior or action that follows, and the reward is the positive outcome that reinforces the habit. To change an old habit, you need to identify the cue, find a new routine that satisfies the same reward, and repeat it until it becomes a new habit.

One effective way to change old habits and create new ones is to start small. Instead of trying to change everything at once, focus on one habit and work on it consistently. It's easier to make small changes that are sustainable over time than to try to make big changes that may be too overwhelming. For example, if you want to start exercising regularly, start with a 10-minute walk every day and gradually increase the duration and intensity of your workouts.

Another helpful strategy for changing old habits and creating new ones is to enlist support from others. Surround yourself with people who have similar goals and habits, and who will encourage and motivate you. You can also find an accountability partner who will hold you accountable for your actions and provide feedback and support when needed. Having a support system can make the habit change process more enjoyable and rewarding, and increase your chances of success.


Identifying triggers that initiate behavior we want to change is an essential step towards changing those behaviors. Triggers are the cues or signals that initiate the behavior we want to change, and they can be internal or external. Internal triggers are thoughts, feelings, or physical sensations that lead to the behavior, while external triggers are environmental cues that prompt the behavior. To identify triggers, it's important to pay close attention to our thoughts, feelings, and actions in different situations.

One effective way to identify triggers is to keep a journal or record of the behavior you want to change. Write down the date, time, and location of the behavior, as well as any thoughts, feelings, or physical sensations that occurred before and after the behavior. This will help you identify patterns and triggers that are associated with the behavior. For example, if you notice that you always eat junk food when you're feeling stressed, the trigger for your behavior may be stress.
Another helpful strategy for identifying triggers is to ask yourself questions that help you explore the reasons behind the behavior. For example, you can ask yourself, "What am I feeling right now?" "What thoughts are going through my mind?" "What events or situations led to this behavior?" By asking these questions, you can gain insight into the triggers that are leading to the behavior you want to change.

Finally, it can be helpful to seek feedback from others. Ask friends or family members to observe your behavior and provide feedback on what they notice. They may be able to identify triggers that you haven't noticed or provide a different perspective on the behavior you want to change.

The Essential oils I love to use when dealing with old habits are, Lavender, Clarity, and Inner Child.  Here's my link if you'd like to check out amazing pure essential oils! CLICK HERE

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Help I'm stuck and need to get moving again!


Feeling stuck in life can be a frustrating and disheartening experience. It often arises when we feel like we're not making progress toward our goals or that we're trapped in a situation we don't want to be in. This can lead to feelings of hopelessness, anxiety, and even depression. However, being stuck in life is a common experience, and there are ways to move forward. 

One way to start is by examining the reasons why you feel stuck. Is it because you're lacking direction, motivation, or resources? Once you understand the root cause of your situation, you can start to explore different ways to overcome it.

There are several ways to move forward when you feel stuck in life. One is to set new goals for yourself. This could involve redefining your priorities, exploring new interests, or pursuing a different career path. Another way to move forward is by seeking support from others. 

This could mean reaching out to friends or family for emotional support or seeking professional help from a therapist or coach. Additionally, taking action towards your goals, no matter how small, can also help you break out of feeling stuck. Remember, progress doesn't have to happen overnight, and it's okay to take things one step at a time. By staying committed and focused on your goals, you can begin to move forward and overcome the feeling of being stuck in life.

There are two types of mindset: growth and fixed. A growth mindset is a belief that abilities and skills can be developed through dedication and hard work. People with a growth mindset see challenges as opportunities to learn and grow and believe that failure is not a permanent setback but a chance to improve. 

On the other hand, a fixed mindset is the belief that abilities and skills are fixed and cannot be changed. People with a fixed mindset tend to avoid challenges, fear failure, and view it as a reflection of their inherent abilities. They tend to give up easily when faced with obstacles and do not see the value in taking risks or trying new things.

The main difference between a growth and a fixed mindset is that a growth mindset focuses on development and improvement, while a fixed mindset focuses on innate ability. People with a growth mindset are more likely to take on challenges, seek feedback, and embrace change, leading to a greater potential for success and personal growth. 

In contrast, people with a fixed mindset tend to have a more limited view of their potential and may miss out on opportunities for growth and development. By understanding the differences between these mindsets, individuals can take steps to cultivate a growth mindset and achieve their full potential.

Having a growth mindset means believing that you can improve and develop your skills and abilities through hard work, dedication, and perseverance. It's a mindset that encourages continuous learning and embraces challenges as opportunities for growth. People with a growth mindset understand that failure is not a permanent setback but a chance to learn and improve. 

They view setbacks and obstacles as challenges to be overcome rather than reasons to give up. With a growth mindset, individuals are more likely to take on new challenges, seek feedback, and embrace change. By adopting a growth mindset, people can achieve their full potential and create a more fulfilling and satisfying life for themselves.

Having a fixed mindset means believing that your skills, abilities, and intelligence are fixed and cannot be changed. People with a fixed mindset tend to avoid challenges, feel threatened by feedback or criticism, and give up easily when faced with obstacles. They see failure as a reflection of their inherent abilities and tend to view it as a personal weakness. 

This mindset can lead to a lack of motivation, decreased performance, and reduced potential for growth and development. Individuals with a fixed mindset may miss out on opportunities for learning and personal growth because they are not willing to take risks or try new things. By recognizing and challenging a fixed mindset, individuals can begin to shift their beliefs and behaviors towards a growth mindset, leading to increased motivation, resilience, and potential for success.

Here are five ways to change a fixed mindset:

  1. Embrace challenges: Instead of avoiding challenges, seek out opportunities to try new things and step outside of your comfort zone. This will help you develop a growth mindset and build resilience.
  2. Emphasize effort over ability: Focus on the effort you put in rather than the outcome. Recognize that hard work and dedication can lead to growth and improvement.
  3. Learn from criticism: Instead of feeling threatened by criticism, view it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Seek feedback and use it to improve your skills and performance.
  4. Embrace learning: Develop a love of learning and a curiosity for new things. This will help you develop new skills and improve your abilities.
  5. Cultivate a positive mindset: Instead of dwelling on negative thoughts and feelings, cultivate a positive mindset. Practice gratitude, mindfulness, and self-compassion to help you develop a growth mindset and achieve your goals.

    If you would like to know more about "getting out of the rut" then you might like my book "Find Your Purpose/Find Your Passion.  The link is HERE!  You can also get my free resource "Stop! How do you get out of your own way?  HERE!






10 Tips on applying The Law Of Detachment

“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” —Tony Robbins


Today's blog is about the Law of Detachment. This is the sixth law in the Universal laws and is so important. You see, in order to acquire anything in the physical Universe, you must relinquish your attachment to it. Thus, trust God totally for your desires at the perfect time.

When we apply this law we have the freedom to leave everything as is, and the freedom to participate without attachment to an idea, a solution, or a goal.
So what are some indications that we are holding on to our desires, or outcomes, and not letting them be in the hands of the Spirit?

What are five indications that we are holding on to our goals, dreams, and desires too tightly?
  1. You constantly think about it and ruminate on it at all times.
  2. You become frustrated and impatient when things don't happen as quickly as you'd like.
  3. You become inflexible and unwilling to consider other options.
  4. You become overly focused on the outcome rather than the process.
  5. You become so obsessed with it that it begins to affect your relationships and other areas of your life.
I'm sure you've experienced some of these five indications in life, and if you find that you are in the midst of one of these, there is hope and a way to change your outcome. When we constantly think about a specific desire and are controlling the outcome, we are limiting the flow of the Universe and God in the direction and result of our desire.

Focusing on the process or the steps that are needed to achieve your desire will leave the outcome unlimited, and may end up so much better than you originally dreamed. Think about how often you've had a desire that when you started along the journey, it opened up to something greater than you ever dreamed possible. When we leave the outcome to Spirit (God) it takes on a greater vision, one that we aren't capable of seeing in the beginning.

Here are 5 tips to apply the Law of Detachment
  1. Take time for self-reflection. Before applying the Law of Detachment, it's important to take time to reflect on your own behavior, emotions, and reactions. Ask yourself what is causing you to be attached to certain people, situations, or outcomes.
  2. Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness can help you be more aware of your thoughts and feelings in each moment, so you can better practice the Law of Detachment.
  3. Let go of expectations. The Law of Detachment is about releasing your expectations from a situation and allowing it to unfold naturally.
  4. Be grateful for what you have. Gratitude can help you put things into perspective and be thankful for the things you have instead of focusing on what you don't have.
  5. Don't be hard on yourself. Remember that it takes practice to learn how to detach and let go of things. Don't be too hard on yourself if you find it challenging at first.
While applying this law needs practice it is well worth being aware of it in your life. All of the seven laws do work together hand in hand and support us to create the life that we truly desire.
The first of the Essential Oils to help with this law is Valor, which instills courage, confidence, and self-esteem, as well as keeps your body in balance and alignment. Stress Away is a blend that brings a feeling of peace and tranquility and also helps to relieve daily stress. You can also use Citrus Fresh or other citrus oils as they stimulate the right brain to amplify creativity and well-being. These oils also are uplifting and help to eradicate anxiety.

Here is my free resource for you today, The X-Factor Formula, which will give you the formula used to create success in every area of your life. HERE! 

And HERE is my link to Essential oils.

Have an awesome week!


Meet Kate Penwarn Thompson

 




DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?



You know when you feel you're emotionally strong but you keep struggling with your weight and lifestyle habits? And, you really want to get out of this rut, move forward, and make positive changes in your life. Your deepest desire is to cut loose from emotions that keep you stuck and get moving and doing in a life you love.


Hey, lovely, whether you're struggling with weight, finances, exes, or everyday events, I can help you find your genius talent and have the confidence to get moving again.   We can do this together.


I  help women who are unhappy juggling life and family get back on track in one hour a week with my proven plan of success of using essential oils.

You don’t have to wait……………you can have it all.



My Story:



I've been through many life-changing moves in my life.  It started with getting a divorce more than a couple of decades ago which changed the whole path to my future.  I left my marriage and got divorced when I was twenty-eight years old with two small children.



I didn't have a job, I was a stay-at-home mum. I hadn't been employed in the workplace for nearly five years and the small allowance given by Social Services was not even close to being able to support me or my kids. In fact, I was pretty broke!



The only other income I had was literally singing for my supper. I was a well-known Singer/Actress in a very popular group at the time and if not for a couple of jobs I managed to get every week singing, I'm not sure how we would have survived.



But, instead of getting bogged down wondering how I was going to support myself and my kids, I used my genius talent and left that divorce behind me. It turned out my divorce made me incredibly strong and independent again.  I got moving and doing on to the life I always wanted to create.



I kicked my ex out and started my new life!



I started my new life feeling free even though finances were a bit of a struggle.  But, because I  believed I could make it all work, it did.  Money was not as much as I would have liked, but it was there when I needed it and I was happy. I missed a meal or two, or three or four, but the kids were fed and I needed to lose a few pounds anyway!



After that came lots of changes.  I attracted my soul mate, got married, and became pregnant almost immediately.  When I was seven months along, my amazing hubby left his cushy Public Service job and started a business.  Never regretted it!



A new path began again!



Suddenly, we were generating our own income which should have been a little scary, but once again I always believed we would succeed, and guess what?  We did!



The business was booming and all was well when our worst nightmare came true.  Our business manager spent every penny of the company's money and left the country.  We were back to square one with a huge debt, and now four kids.



Well, with income being very scarce, I decided I needed to earn some income.  I'd only worked as a professional entertainer for years and had let that lapse a bit having had two extra children in the first two years we were married.  I had to work around them, and leave room for amazing hubby to start again as well.



You won't believe my next move!



I decided to become an Avon Lady. You know, ding dong, door to door, selling out of that little book that came out every three weeks! I think my hubby rolled on the floor laughing, but not for long. You see, I believed I would succeed and succeed I did.  I put my genius talent to work again, and in three months I was one of the top three sales representatives in the State.



Within six months, I was asked to be a Stand-In Manager and manage an Avon District for a Manager on leave.  About twelve months into my little adventure, I was hired by Corporate Avon in Australia as a Manager with my own District,  salary, expense account, and my own car.  I wasn't bringing home two bob anymore, I was a contributor to the family income.



That was the good part. The hard part was my new District was #Thirty out of Thirty-three in the state.  I had my work cut out for me. Well, I'm here to tell you that in six months my District was #Three and nobody was laughing anymore!



My hubby built another Consulting business while I worked at Avon and we were once again back to being abundant in all areas of our life.  The Law of Attraction and Deliberate Creation in action!  We didn't even know these Laws of the Universe were at work in our lives, we just believed in our genius talent!



The surprise move that came next!



Over the next few years, we were financially stable again and I resigned from what had become a grueling time-sucking job at Avon and moved back into the entertainment industry.  During this time amazing brilliant hubby had come up with the idea to write one of the first Anti-Virus programs for computers in the world.



Well, life got pretty sweet, and we were rolling along on the golf course in Brisbane most days when he asked me about a big surprise move!  How did I feel about moving to America?  I never hesitated.  Woo Hoo! I was totally in. 



We began to pack up what we could take with us, our clothes, furniture, my piano and called the movers.  We rented the house, said good-bye and hubby, myself and four kids with half a suitcase each, boarded a plane one Saturday morning in January to start our new adventure.



Everyone thought we were crazy but I knew this was one of the most amazing kick-butt moves I'd ever made in my life.



Then reality set in and I found another new path!



When I actually moved countries, I had become very successful as both a songwriter and performer in my hometown. It never occurred to me that I would not continue my professional music and acting career, but the struggle to re-establish myself was real and after few years I realized that I had to change paths yet again.



I took a year to just find myself and then a whisper came to my ear about adopting a child that needed a home from foster care.  It moved very quickly from a thought to an actuality.  Within a couple of days, we were in a ten-week course for foster/adoptive parents.  We found pure potential when we had no clue that the ability or desire to do this lay deep inside of us. This became one of the most rewarding and fulfilling journeys in my life.



At the end of that ten weeks, I got a phone call and our new family began.  Twin boys, twenty-months old came for the weekend and stayed forever.  They were the first of about fifty foster children and the beginning of adopting eight children, which includes three sets of twins!



I loved my journey of being a foster/adoptive parent, but our house got full to overflowing, and even though most of our children are grown now, I am still an advocate and resource for Foster/Adoptive Parents.



How I decided to become a multi certified Life/Health Coach.



Many of our new children had been born drug and alcohol addicted, so I dealt with many different physical and mental issues that emerged in them as they began to grow up. I spent hours with our children in therapies of all kinds.



While dealing with Physical, Occupational, Speech Therapy, and a few psychiatrists along the way, I learned coping skills for managing different disabilities, and mental illnesses.  I also learned how to have a good relationship with birth families in difficult circumstances.



I also had an older family who was going through teenage years and found myself the local mom and counselor. Many a teenager came into our home crying and left feeling better about themselves and their situation. Although I was technically being a Life Coach to those kids, I didn't officially gain my certifications until much later



In the last couple of decades, I've been constantly changing the path of my life and being successful at doing so. I've also realized that change for some is not easy and making a major move in life can leave you overwhelmed, and exhausted, unable to deal with the feelings around it.



I've also worked with foster and adoptive parents for the last twenty years, who also have to move on when a child is moved to a different placement, and their feelings are very similar to the emotions surrounding any life change.



As well, I've since been touched by divorce in my older adult children's lives.  The biggest stumbling block they've had is moving on to their new life after divorce.



As I 've been there supporting them through their pain, I realized that I wanted to help others find their genius talent to get doing and moving and get their emotional energy flowing again. Through coaching, especially Seven + Seven Essentials, I love seeing them find their new life of joy and happiness.  I love working as a coach alongside essential oils, as the breakthroughs come so much faster when the power of oils is added.  

As a certified Aroma Freedom Technique Practioner, I have not only found the power of healing the mind with oils, but also healing the body.  

I'm a certified Life Coach in Causal Coaching, Law Of Attraction, Money, Health, and Essential Oils. I find that most women who have left marriage not only have emotions surrounding it but quite often now battle with their health and their finances. I triumphed over all of these issues, I moved on and never looked back. I can help you.



Where I am today.



Today, I am a confident mother of twelve children, a partner to an amazing man, and stepping out into everything the Universe and God have for me.  I value myself as a businesswoman, a wife, a mother, and no longer fear a change in direction.  I embrace all parts of me, creative, physical, mental, spiritual, and nourish each part of myself, with self-coaching, nutrition, and the power of essential oils.



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