I have been in my quiet place.
Why?
To pray, think, reflect, and listen.
Sometimes, life can get so "busy," and somewhat chaotic, to the point where it seems to be on auto pilot. Walking a path that is familiar, almost repetitive, with no new inspiration, just the same old, same old. It's not easily recognized because it's routine, ingrained, and habitual. It becomes draining, unproductive, and eventually sucks the life out of you.
About fourteen months ago I had a total knee replacement. It had been on the cards for a few years and finally I got to a place where life had become miserable. I was unable to walk properly, and I was suffering with pain. It put me on my hiney to say the least. It was tough, painful, and a long recovery. It also threw me out of the day to day life I was living and I felt robbed of "familiar" routines that I was used to. My energy was taken up with recovery and being able to walk again. That meant physical therapy two or three times a week, and at least twice daily at home. It was painful. There was not a lot of sleep. My life as I knew it was disrupted.
I kept trying to get back on the same path I was on. It wasn't working. Then, on one of the many sleepless nights I had, I had divine inspiration for my new book. I actually got out of the bed and wrote it down so I wouldn't forget it. Sort of what I do when I get a song idea in the middle of the night. Only this was a book. It was about reseting emotions and thoughts around old habits, behaviors, relationships, and changing them for the better.
"The One Minute Emotional RESET."
Little did I know how this tiny book of inspiration would actually change my life and the path that I was on.
And yet, realizing a change of direction was in my future, did not happen overnight. It took doors closing, other doors opening, routines becoming so impossible to maintain that they dried up. Being forced to stop my mind going in a hundred directions and begin to search for answers. I ran into walls and doors that looked pretty good before though now they looked like they were blocking out what had been and I had to work out why.
In writing this book of divine inspiration, I finally had my eyes open to the fact that you have to shovel out what's been done, or not working anymore, to make way for new things to prosper. In fact Ecclesiastes 3:1 says:
"To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven."
This is followed by a well-known passage listing various times and seasons in life, such as "a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted."
It was time to change direction. Wow! Why does it take so long to realize when the season is done and God has something new and exciting waiting for you to wake up and step into!
Letting go of anything, whether it's been good, or bad, isn't easy. "To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven." And, sometimes the season looks good! When this happens it's hard to see the season is done. Though is it just a perception that it's still "good?" Nothing stays stagnant, everything is mean to grow and change. What works for a while may not always be the case. When disruption, or interruption happens, that's a sign. A sign it's time for a change and to recognize we need to pivot, and move on. I'm plucking up what I have planted, and am replanting, fresh new seeds that will sprout into the next season God has planned for me.
What is disrupting or interrupting your life right now? Is it a behavior, a relationship, a habit, a slump, or dissatisfaction with a situation that's not working for you anymore?
Letting go makes room for new beginnings, inspiration, and growth.
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YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL!
When you have to make a change in your life, it comes down to choosing to do that.
Our choices are important, every one of them.
Why?
Because your choice will ultimately give you your outcome in any situation.
Changing your thoughts simply comes down to making the decision that you don't desire something in your life anymore.
Making that decision to choose differently may take some time to recognize this is not how you desire to live your life. Though, when you make that decision it is generally made very quickly. The reason for that is that you have finally had enough of the situation, the attitude, or the behavior. In under a minute, you can and will embrace the change you desire and then you will end it.
Recently, I made a huge decision in my own life. A habit I had mulled over for a very long time though when I chose to change I did so in just a moment or two.
Often it is recognizing finally you don't desire to keep this habit or attitude and it's done. Gone. Over. You chose to end it.
Years, or should I say decades ago I picked up the horrible habit of smoking. I was going through a divorce with two small children, singing for my supper, and not getting a lot of spare time or sleep. The "gals" I sang with in a four-girl cabaret act all smoked. I found myself joining them and suddenly, or not so suddenly, I had a habit that I didn't desire that was detrimental to my health and my voice. Yet, I smoked for several years even though I hated it.
When the moment came that I hated the habit enough to quit, that happened in under a minute. I made the decision and I believe because of prayer I never picked one up again. It was ended.
I embraced the change, I made the choice, and I conquered the challenge of not smoking a cigarette ever again.
I felt so free!
When you have a strong desire to change a habit or attitude, the freedom that comes from choosing to do so is incredible!
Habits are just that. A way of living that has become normal even if it is something you don't desire. Breaking the habit comes from recognizing it and then choosing to end it.
Your mind is a powerful part of your body. Your mind controls your brain where all these habits are formed. Your brain, of course, doesn't like change which causes us to take time to overrule it with our conscious mind.
The great part is your mind is in control and can make the change when it fully decides to.
What habit or attitude would you like to change?
Remember.
You can embrace the change, make the choice, and conquer the challenge.
I'll leave you with a verse from the bible that says it all!
Philippians 4:13:
"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."
This verse emphasizes the strength and empowerment that comes from faith in Christ, which can be applied to embracing change, making important decisions, and overcoming difficulties.
In the last few months, as I have been recovering from knee replacement surgery, I have had to do a lot of "mind over matter." There have been times of incredible pain, frustration, feeling hopeless, physical therapy that made me cry two or three times a week, and the overall feeling of what happened to life as I once knew it.
I'm grateful to be able to walk better and get on with life, as well as all the training and study I've done in the last ten years about how my thoughts affect my emotions and my actions. Oh, I have not been perfect, and struggling with my mind trying to stay positive and look to a better future with more mobility, has not been easy. It has been "MIND OVER MATTER!"
So, what does that mean? In our fast-paced, ever-changing world, the concept of "mind over matter" has become a popular and maybe overused phrase. At its core, this phrase embodies the idea that your thoughts, beliefs, and mental strength can have a profound impact on your physical reality. Whether it’s overcoming physical challenges, enduring pain, or pushing beyond perceived limitations, the power of the mind is a crucial element in achieving extraordinary feats. But what does "mind over matter" really mean, and how can you harness this power in your everyday life?
Understanding "Mind Over Matter"
"Mind over matter" suggests that mental strength and determination can transcend physical barriers. It’s a concept rooted in various philosophical, psychological, and spiritual traditions. Historically, it has been associated with the belief that the mind holds the power to shape reality. This idea is not just a philosophical musing but is supported by scientific evidence as well.
For instance, if you believe you can produce a certain, or desired result this can lead to real physiological improvements, highlighting the influence of the mind on the body. This truly is using your mind and your belief system to produce the results you desire.
From a psychological perspective, mental resilience – the ability to bounce back from adversity – is the belief and expectation of "mind over matter." If you can develop high mental resilience you will navigate life's challenges with greater ease, maintaining a positive outlook and finding solutions where others see only obstacles. This resilience is not an inherent trait but a skill that can be cultivated through practices such as mindfulness, cognitive-behavioral techniques, and fostering a supportive social network.
The Role of Mental Resilience
Mental resilience is the cornerstone of "mind over matter." It involves maintaining flexibility and balance when faced with stressful situations. When you are resilient you are not immune to difficulties though can recover from setbacks more quickly. You begin to view challenges as opportunities for growth rather than insurmountable barriers. This mindset enables you to stay focused, motivated, and persistent even in the face of adversity.
One of the key aspects of building mental resilience is cultivating a positive and realistic outlook.
This involves recognizing negative thought patterns and consciously replacing them with more constructive ones. Cognitive-behavioral strategies can be particularly effective in this regard, helping you to reframe your thoughts and develop a more optimistic perspective.
Additionally, mindfulness practices, such as meditation and deep-breathing exercises, can enhance emotional regulation, reduce stress, and promote a sense of calm and clarity.
Practical Steps to Harness "Mind Over Matter"
- Mindfulness and Meditation: Engaging in regular mindfulness and meditation practices can help you stay grounded and focused, reducing the impact of negative thoughts and emotions. These practices enhance your ability to remain calm and collected, even in stressful situations.
- Positive Affirmations: Incorporate positive affirmations into your daily routine. Affirmations are statements that reinforce a positive self-image and mindset, helping to boost confidence and resilience. For example, repeating phrases like "I am strong" or "I can handle whatever comes my way" can reinforce a resilient mindset.
- Cognitive-Behavioral Techniques: Learn to identify and challenge negative thought patterns. Cognitive-behavioral techniques can help you reframe your thinking, turning obstacles into opportunities for growth. This can involve questioning the validity of negative thoughts and replacing them with more balanced, constructive ones.
- Supportive Relationships: Build and maintain a strong support network. Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive individuals can provide emotional support and practical assistance during tough times. Having a community to rely on can significantly enhance your resilience.
- Goal Setting: Set realistic and achievable goals. Breaking down larger challenges into manageable steps can make them seem less daunting and help you stay focused and motivated. Celebrate your progress along the way to maintain momentum.
Conclusion
"Mind over matter" is more than just a catchy phrase; it's a powerful principle that underscores the incredible potential of the human mind. By cultivating mental resilience, you can navigate life's challenges with greater ease, turning setbacks into opportunities for growth. Through mindfulness, positive affirmations, cognitive-behavioral techniques, supportive relationships, and goal setting, you can harness the power of your mind to overcome physical and mental barriers. In doing so, you not only enhance your well-being but also inspire those around you to recognize and tap into their inner strength.
By integrating these aspects into daily life, prayer can significantly enhance your ability to withstand and recover from adversity, thereby promoting overall mental resilience.
Psalm 23:4 (NIV): "Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me."
This verse provides comfort and courage, emphasizing God's presence and protection even in the darkest and most challenging times
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The first words out of my mouth after I walked in was "Honey I feel like a fake!"
I had walked in for surgery with no limp, no walker, no cane, no wheelchair, so why was I here? Everybody else had not walked in without help of some sort.
I knew that answer.
A knee replacement. A constant cry from my orthopedic doctor for seven years!
I did the gel shots and they worked at first, but then in June they worked no more.
I couldn't exercise the way I used to.
I couldn't walk the mountain.
My body was being pulled out of alignment because my left leg was out of alignment because of the chronic arthritis, and the bone on bone situation in my knee.
I would go to the chiropractor and she would put me back only for my leg to pull me right back out.
My brain would tell me I was ok, it was ok, but somewhere that voice inside said, "Nope, you ain't OK!"
Turns out my brain was used to, and was suppressing, the actual pain I was feeling.
No wonder, I was tired, dragging along without motivation, purpose, intent, and struggling to get through each and every day.
My normal exercise routine was out the window, I was beat by five o'clock, my memory and mind was foggy, and I told myself it was managing a large family, with work and life balance.
All baloney, and what my mind had got used too!
"I feel like a fake!" That statement came from all of my brains efforts to "keep calm and carry on." Don't rock the boat. You're fine, take a pain pill.
Well none of it was fake, my brain was giving me misinformation and I was buying it.
Twenty-four hours after surgery, I have less pain, and my mind is sharp again. My first thoughts this morning was, "It's November 1st! The Thirty Day Abundance Challenge."
No more drowning in repressing pain and the feelings that came with that.
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Being self-aware regarding unhealthy habits is an essential step towards personal growth and well-being. It involves a conscious recognition of behaviors or routines that are detrimental to our physical, mental, or emotional health. This awareness is like shining a light on the dark corners of our lives, where these habits often lurk unnoticed.
It begins with an honest assessment of oneself, which can be both enlightening and challenging. Acknowledging these habits takes courage because it means facing the truth about our choices and their consequences.
Once we become self-aware of these unhealthy habits, we gain the power to make positive changes. This newfound awareness allows us to take responsibility for our actions and empowers us to break free from destructive patterns. It opens the door to self-improvement, as we can now set goals, seek support, and develop strategies to replace these habits with healthier alternatives.
Self-awareness regarding unhealthy habits is a vital step on the journey towards a happier, more balanced, and fulfilling life. It's the first step towards taking control of our destiny and shaping a future that aligns with our values and aspirations.
Learning to be self-aware is a valuable skill that can greatly enhance personal growth and well-being. Here are some ways to develop and improve self-awareness:
- Meditation and Mindfulness: Practicing meditation and mindfulness techniques can help you become more in tune with your thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations. These practices encourage you to observe your thoughts without judgment, promoting self-awareness.
- Journaling: Keeping a journal allows you to reflect on your thoughts and feelings. Write about your experiences, goals, and challenges. Regularly reviewing your journal can help you identify patterns and gain insights into your behavior.
- Self-Reflection: Set aside time regularly to reflect on your life, choices, and actions. Ask yourself questions like, "Why did I react that way?" or "What are my core values?" These introspective moments can lead to a deeper understanding of yourself.
- Seek Feedback: Ask for honest feedback from friends, family, or colleagues about your strengths and weaknesses. Sometimes, others can provide insights you might have overlooked.
- Practice Active Listening: Improve your listening skills by being fully present when others speak. This can help you better understand their perspectives and, in turn, enhance your self-awareness in social situations.
- Mind-Body Connection: Pay attention to your physical sensations, such as tension, discomfort, or relaxation. These bodily cues can often provide clues about your emotional state and areas of concern.
- Therapy or Counseling: Consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor. They can offer guidance and techniques to explore your thoughts and emotions in a safe and supportive environment.
- Personality Assessments: Take personality assessments like the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), the Enneagram, or the Big Five personality traits. While not definitive, these tools can provide valuable insights into your personality and behavior.
- Set Clear Goals: Define your short-term and long-term goals. Knowing what you want to achieve can help you evaluate your progress and whether your actions align with your objectives.
- Learn from Mistakes: Embrace failure and mistakes as opportunities for growth. Analyze what went wrong and what you can do differently next time. This process can reveal areas for self-improvement.
- Regular Check-Ins: Schedule regular check-ins with yourself to assess your overall well-being, including your physical, mental, and emotional health. Adjust your routines and habits accordingly.
- Stay Curious: Cultivate a curious mindset by continuously seeking to learn and explore new things. The more you learn, the more you understand yourself and the world around you.
Remember that self-awareness is an ongoing process. It takes time and effort to develop, but the benefits are profound. By actively working on self-awareness, you can make more informed decisions, improve your relationships, and lead a more fulfilling life.
The Bible also contains several examples that highlight the importance of being self-aware of unhealthy habits and the need for repentance and change. Here are a few notable biblical examples:
- King David's Adultery and Murder (2 Samuel 11-12): King David's affair with Bathsheba and the subsequent murder of her husband, Uriah, serve as a powerful example of the consequences of unchecked desires and a lack of self-awareness. It was only when the prophet Nathan confronted David with a parable that David realized the gravity of his actions and repented, demonstrating the need for self-awareness and moral reflection.
- The Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32): In the parable of the prodigal son, a young man squanders his inheritance on sinful living and eventually hits rock bottom. It is only when he becomes self-aware of his mistakes and the consequences of his actions that he decides to return to his father in repentance. This story emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's unhealthy habits and making the choice to change.
- The Apostle Peter's Denial (Matthew 26:69-75): Peter's threefold denial of knowing Jesus during His trial illustrates how unaware we can be of our own weaknesses. Peter confidently asserted he would never betray Jesus, but when faced with the situation, he crumbled. This experience prompted Peter to confront his own limitations and ultimately led to his transformation and strengthened commitment.
- Saul's Persecution of Christians (Acts 9): Saul, who later became the Apostle Paul, was initially a zealous persecutor of Christians. His journey to self-awareness occurred when he encountered Jesus on the road to Damascus. This transformative experience forced him to confront his misguided beliefs and unhealthy habits, leading to a complete change in his life's direction.
- The Rich Young Ruler (Matthew 19:16-22): In this story, a rich young man asks Jesus what he must do to inherit eternal life. Jesus advises him to sell his possessions and follow Him, but the man cannot let go of his wealth. This encounter demonstrates the struggle many people face in recognizing and overcoming attachments to material possessions and the need for self-awareness in making life-changing decisions.
These biblical examples illustrate the importance of self-awareness in recognizing and addressing unhealthy habits and sinful behaviors. They show that true repentance and transformation often begin with a deep reflection on one's actions, motives, and the consequences of their choices. Through self-awareness, individuals can turn away from destructive habits and seek forgiveness and redemption, aligning their lives with God's will and purpose.
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