Are you "weighed down" or are you "weightless?"


I recently discovered that my left knee must be surgically replaced if I want to stay active.  Now, I am in good health, and go to the gym, though due to not being able to do my usual walks on the mountain my weight has crept to my upper normals over mid to lower normals.  So, I'm going to do something for myself to get stronger and heal quicker after surgery.  I'm going to challenge myself to get back to a few pounds lighter and to maintain my lower healthier weight.

Maintaining a healthy weight offers numerous benefits that positively impact both physical and mental well-being. Firstly, it reduces the risk of developing chronic diseases such as diabetes, heart disease, and certain types of cancer. By keeping weight within a healthy range, individuals can lower their blood pressure, improve cholesterol levels, and enhance overall cardiovascular health. Additionally, maintaining a healthy weight promotes better joint health, reducing the strain on bones and joints, and lowering the risk of conditions such as arthritis.

Secondly, maintaining a healthy weight has significant psychological advantages. It can boost self-esteem and body image, leading to increased confidence and a positive outlook on life. Regular physical activity, which often accompanies weight maintenance, releases endorphins, improving mood and reducing symptoms of depression and anxiety. 

Moreover, individuals who maintain a healthy weight tend to experience better sleep patterns, increased energy levels, and improved cognitive function, allowing them to perform daily tasks more efficiently and effectively. Overall, maintaining a healthy weight is a holistic approach that supports both physical and mental well-being, leading to a higher quality of life.

Exercise is also extremely important, and even if I cannot walk the distances I am used to doing right now, I am still maintaining an exercise regimen three to five days a week. 

Exercise offers a multitude of benefits that positively impact both physical and mental well-being. Firstly, regular physical activity plays a vital role in maintaining a healthy weight and preventing obesity. Exercise helps burn calories, build muscle mass, and improve metabolism, contributing to weight management. Furthermore, exercise promotes cardiovascular health by strengthening the heart and improving circulation, leading to reduced risks of heart disease, high blood pressure, and stroke. It also helps improve lung function and enhances overall endurance and stamina.

Secondly, exercise has significant mental health benefits. Physical activity stimulates the release of endorphins, often called "feel-good" hormones, which can improve mood and reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety. Regular exercise has been shown to enhance cognitive function, memory, and concentration, leading to improved productivity and mental clarity. 

Moreover, exercise provides a healthy outlet for stress relief, helping to reduce stress levels and promote relaxation. It can also boost self-esteem and body image, fostering a positive sense of self and promoting overall mental well-being. In summary, exercise is a powerful tool that benefits both the body and the mind, leading to improved physical health, increased energy levels, and enhanced emotional well-being.

Here are five ways to start exercising

  1. Set achievable goals: Begin by setting realistic and achievable exercise goals. Start with small steps, such as aiming to exercise for 20 minutes three times a week, and gradually increase the duration and frequency as you build stamina and confidence. Setting achievable goals helps maintain motivation and prevents overwhelm.
  2. Find activities you enjoy: Engaging in physical activities you enjoy makes exercise more enjoyable and sustainable in the long run. Experiment with different activities such as walking, cycling, swimming, dancing, or joining a sports team. Discover what you find fun and fulfilling, and incorporate it into your exercise routine.
  3. Make it a habit: Consistency is key when starting an exercise routine. Schedule dedicated time for exercise in your daily or weekly calendar and treat it as an important commitment. Consider exercising at the same time each day to establish a routine and make it a habit that becomes part of your lifestyle.
  4. Start small and progress gradually: It's essential to start at a comfortable level, especially if you're new to exercise or returning after a long break. Begin with low-impact activities and gradually increase the intensity or duration as your fitness level improves. Listen to your body and don't push yourself too hard initially, as this can lead to injury or burnout.
  5. Get support and accountability: Seek support from friends, family, or a workout buddy who can join you in your exercise journey. Having someone to exercise with can make it more enjoyable and provide mutual encouragement. Additionally, consider joining fitness classes or programs that offer structure, guidance, and accountability to help you stay motivated and committed to your exercise routine.
Maintaining a healthy weight not only benefits your physical health but also plays a crucial role in supporting your emotional well-being. Here are five reasons why maintaining a healthy weight helps your emotions:

  1. Improved self-esteem: Achieving and maintaining a healthy weight can boost your self-esteem and body image. Feeling confident in your physical appearance can positively impact your emotional well-being, leading to increased self-worth and a more positive self-image.
  2. Reduced stress levels: Regular exercise, which is often a part of weight maintenance, releases endorphins, which are known as "feel-good" hormones. These endorphins can help reduce stress levels, promote relaxation, and enhance your overall mood.
  3. Enhanced mental clarity: A healthy weight is often associated with a balanced diet and regular physical activity, both of which contribute to improved cognitive function. Proper nutrition and exercise support brain health, leading to better focus, increased mental clarity, and improved emotional stability.
  4. Increased energy levels: Maintaining a healthy weight can provide you with more energy throughout the day. When your body is fueled with nutritious foods and regular exercise, you are more likely to feel energized and ready to tackle daily tasks. Higher energy levels can contribute to a more positive and optimistic outlook on life.
  5. Better sleep quality: Carrying excess weight can sometimes lead to sleep problems such as sleep apnea or disrupted sleep patterns. By maintaining a healthy weight, you can reduce the risk of these issues and promote better sleep quality. Sufficient, restful sleep is essential for emotional well-being, as it helps regulate mood, improves stress management, and enhances overall emotional resilience.
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Have a great week!

Things you should know about the third "C"


Changing our thoughts is crucial for our well-being and overall quality of life and can be downright challenging!  Especially when something has happened to cause stress, worry, and chip away at your beliefs.  This is why the 5 "C's" are useful when one of these situations arises.

Changing negative thoughts is crucial for our well-being and overall quality of life. When we allow negative thoughts to take hold, they can consume us and drain our energy, leading to increased stress, anxiety, and unhappiness. By consciously challenging and transforming negative thoughts into positive ones, we empower ourselves to cultivate a more optimistic outlook on life. 

This shift in mindset opens up a world of possibilities, enabling us to see opportunities where we once saw obstacles. It promotes resilience, self-confidence, and a greater sense of control over our emotions and actions. Ultimately, choosing to change negative thoughts allows us to nurture a healthier and more fulfilling inner dialogue, paving the way for personal growth, improved relationships, and a more positive and joyful existence.

Here are five ways to help change a negative thought into a more positive one:

  1. Awareness and Challenge: Begin by becoming aware of negative thoughts as they arise. Pause and consciously question their validity. Ask yourself if there is evidence to support the negative thought or if there could be alternative perspectives. Challenge the negative thought by replacing it with a positive or more balanced statement.
  2. Reframing: Reframing involves consciously shifting your perspective on a situation. Instead of focusing solely on the negatives, try to find the silver lining or a more constructive angle. Look for opportunities for growth, learning, or gratitude within the situation. Reframing allows you to see the bigger picture and reframe negative experiences as valuable lessons.
  3. Positive Affirmations: Positive affirmations are powerful statements that reinforce positive beliefs about oneself. Choose affirmations that counteract your negative thoughts and repeat them regularly. By affirming positive qualities or outcomes, you can rewire your subconscious mind to embrace more positive and empowering thoughts.
  4. Gratitude Practice: Cultivating a gratitude practice can help shift your focus from negative thoughts to the positive aspects of your life. Each day, take a few moments to reflect on things you are grateful for, whether big or small. This practice promotes a mindset of appreciation and helps counterbalance negative thinking patterns.
  5. Self-Compassion: Negative thoughts often stem from self-criticism and judgment. Practice self-compassion by treating yourself with kindness and understanding. When negative thoughts arise, remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes and has setbacks. Offer yourself words of encouragement and remind yourself that you are worthy of love and acceptance.
Remember, changing negative thoughts takes time and practice. Be patient and persistent with these techniques, and gradually you'll experience a shift towards more positive thinking patterns.

To help your brain move to a better thought over a negative one, it's essential to practice awareness and active intervention. Start by recognizing when negative thoughts arise and consciously choose to redirect your focus. Engage in activities that bring you joy and promote a positive mindset, such as listening to uplifting music, reading inspirational books, or engaging in creative outlets. 

Challenge negative thoughts by questioning their validity and searching for alternative, more positive perspectives. Replace negative self-talk with encouraging and supportive affirmations. Surround yourself with positive influences and supportive people who can help shift your perspective. 

Finally, practice self-compassion and forgiveness, recognizing that everyone experiences negative thoughts and setbacks. By consistently practicing these strategies, you can train your brain to seek and embrace better thoughts, leading to increased resilience, happiness, and overall well-being.

Here are five ways to help your brain look for better thoughts over negative ones:

  1. Mindfulness and Meditation: Engage in regular mindfulness and meditation practices. These techniques help you observe your thoughts without judgment and create space between you and your negative thoughts. By cultivating a non-reactive and present-moment awareness, you can interrupt negative thought patterns and create room for more positive and constructive thoughts to emerge.
  2. Surround Yourself with Positivity: Surround yourself with positive influences, such as uplifting books, podcasts, and supportive people. Seek out environments that foster positivity and optimism. The more exposure you have to positive ideas and experiences, the more your brain will naturally gravitate towards better thoughts.
  3. Cognitive Restructuring: Cognitive restructuring is a technique that involves challenging and reframing negative thoughts. When a negative thought arises, consciously question its validity and explore alternative perspectives. Look for evidence that contradicts the negative thought and reframe it into a more positive or balanced statement. Practice this regularly to rewire your brain to seek out better thoughts.
  4. Gratitude Practice: Cultivate a daily gratitude practice. Regularly acknowledge and appreciate the positive aspects of your life, no matter how small. This practice rewires your brain to focus on the good, helping it naturally seek out and generate better thoughts. Consider keeping a gratitude journal or sharing your gratitude with others to enhance the benefits.
  5. Engage in Positive Self-Talk: Pay attention to your internal dialogue and consciously replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations and supportive statements. Be kind and compassionate towards yourself, and consciously choose thoughts that uplift and encourage you. Over time, your brain will learn to default to more positive thoughts and beliefs.
Remember, changing your thought patterns takes time and effort. Be patient and consistent with these practices, and you'll gradually train your brain to seek out better thoughts over negative ones.

Young Living Essential Oils I use when doing these Five "C's" are Frankincense, Lavender, Stress Away (as a blend in equal drops), Clarity, and Abundance.  Check out these oils by clicking HERE!

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"I loved this book! The author shows us how our thoughts define our future, and provides all the practical information we need to start overcoming obstacles in our lives and achieving things we thought we could never do. Punctuated with stories about her own journey, the author provides a step-by-step guide to finding purpose in life and living it with passion. She teaches us how to identify the things we need to change, and the skills to commit to that change and always be accountable. Importantly, she identifies the power of truly believing in ourselves, and never, ever giving up."   Susan Brown.


The Belief Factor. Do you know YOUR purpose?




Having a sense of purpose in life is essential for our overall well-being and fulfillment. It gives us a reason to wake up every day with motivation and enthusiasm. When we have a purpose, we have a clear goal or direction that guides our decisions and actions. It can give us a sense of meaning and satisfaction, as we feel like we are making a difference in the world or contributing to something greater than ourselves. 

A purpose can provide a sense of identity and help us understand our values and beliefs. It can also give us a sense of control and empowerment, as we take ownership of our lives and make decisions that align with our purpose.

Moreover, having a purpose in life can positively impact our mental and physical health. Studies have shown that people who have a sense of purpose have lower levels of stress and anxiety, are less likely to experience depression, and have better sleep quality. Having a purpose can also improve our cognitive function and brain health, as it gives us a reason to keep learning and growing. 

It can even prolong our lives, as research has linked a sense of purpose to a reduced risk of mortality. Overall, having a purpose in life is crucial for our well-being and can lead to a more fulfilling and meaningful life.

One way to find your purpose in life is to explore the things you are passionate about. Your passions are a great place to start when trying to identify your purpose because they are usually the things that give you the most joy and satisfaction. Start by making a list of the things you enjoy doing, the things that make you feel alive and engaged. Reflect on the times when you have lost track of time or felt completely immersed in an activity. These are often indications of your passions.

Once you have identified your passions, start thinking about how you can use them to make a positive impact on the world. For example, if you are passionate about writing, you could write articles or books that inspire people or help them solve problems. If you are passionate about music, you could use your talent to bring joy and entertainment to others, or you could write songs that convey meaningful messages. The key is to find ways to use your passions to contribute to something greater than yourself. By aligning your passions with a sense of purpose, you can find a fulfilling and meaningful way to live your life.

Here are five tips to find YOUR purpose in life!



  1. Explore your interests and passions: Start by making a list of the things you enjoy doing or the topics that you are passionate about. Consider what brings you joy, fulfillment, and a sense of accomplishment. Think about the activities that you could engage in for hours without getting bored. These are often good indicators of your passions and can help you identify potential paths to finding your purpose.
  2. Identify your core values: Reflect on the things that matter most to you in life, such as integrity, honesty, kindness, or compassion. Understanding your core values can help you make decisions that align with your beliefs and bring a sense of meaning to your life.
  3. Try new things: Experiment with new activities, hobbies, or career paths that you have not tried before. This can help you discover new interests and passions that you never knew existed. It may also help you gain new skills and experiences that could be useful in identifying your purpose.
  4. Reflect on your life experiences: Consider the challenges, setbacks, or successes that you have experienced in life. Reflect on the lessons learned and how they have shaped your perspective or values. These experiences can help you identify areas of interest or passion that you may want to pursue further.
  5. Seek guidance and support: Talk to trusted friends, family members, or mentors about your journey to finding your purpose. Seek their advice, feedback, or insights on your strengths, weaknesses, and areas of interest. They may be able to provide valuable guidance and support as you navigate the process of discovering your purpose.
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10 Tips About the Law of Polarity

A winner is a dreamer who never gave up..........Nelson Mandela


Today we're going to talk about the 7the Law, the Law of Polarity. This law simply states that one is really two. 

What does the Law of Polarity mean?

The Law of Polarity states that everything in life has an opposite. This law can be applied to many different areas of life, from physical objects to feelings and emotions. It is a fundamental concept in many spiritual and metaphysical disciplines, and it suggests that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. 

It also suggests that for every force, there is an opposing force, and for every expression of energy, there is an equal and opposite expression of energy. This law can help us to better understand the world around us and the interactions between people.

What are five things that tell us we are not practicing the law of polarity?
  1. Not taking responsibility for our actions and their consequences. 
  2. Not recognizing the positive potential in every situation. 
  3. Not recognizing that we have the power to create our own reality. 
  4. Not understanding that we are all connected and have an effect on each other. 
  5. Not understanding that we can create a better world by choosing kindness and understanding over hatred and judgment.
When we are not taking care of thoughts that create actions we don't desire we are operating in 'lack' and therefore cannot reach our full potential. When we are mindful of our thoughts and feelings our outcomes are way more successful.
We have the potential and power to create what we desire, not what we don't. 

When we understand we are all connected and we do have an effect on each other and ourselves when we are choosing kindness instead of hatred or judgment. Judgment has no place in our lives as it prevents us from moving into what God and the Universe have planned for us. "Judgment is mine, says the Lord." Romans 12: 19-21.


What are 5 tips to practice the Law of Polarity?
  1. Identify your polarity - Be aware of the two sides of any issue or situation and accept them both.
  2. Develop your understanding - Take time to explore and understand the two sides of any polarity.
  3. Practice non-judgment - Refrain from judging either side of the polarity.
  4. Act with intention - Make conscious decisions in how you interact with the two sides of the polarity.
  5. Find balance - Aim to bring balance to the two sides of the polarity and create harmony.
Here are a few opposites that can and will affect your life if you choose the negative side.

Balance vs insecurity. If you are not balanced you are not grounded and this will cause extremes in thinking, feeling, acting, and outcome.
Joy vs Sadness. Choosing joyfulness and encouraging positive energy in times of restlessness and feeling uneasy.
Hopeful vs Hopeless. When you lose hope you lose sight of your visions, goals, and dreams. Choosing hope will help you to reconnect with a feeling of strength and grounding, restoring hope for tomorrow.

Mindful vs Oblivious. Being mindful, and practicing mindfulness, creates awareness of your thinking and helps to change patterns of not heeding thoughts that lead to unwelcome outcomes. Choosing to be mindful leads you to manifest your desires and uplifts your belief that you can achieve them.

Clarity vs Vagueness. Having clarity around where you desire to be in your life will always give you insight, instead of feeling like you are in a fog unable to make clear and precise decisions.

Some of the essential oils I recommend here are a blend of Frankincense, Lavender, and Stress Away. The components in these three oils can bring balance and grounding which stops us from going to extremes. It will also increase spiritual awareness, promote prayer and meditation, improve attitude, and uplift spirits. Another oil here is Peace and Calming, which helps with emotions like fear of losing control.

Other oils you might like to try are Joy, which speaks for itself, and Into the Future which inspires determination and a pioneering spirit to create a strong emotional feeling of being able to reach one's potential. Hope can be used to move forward, and Transformation reaches into the deepest recesses of memories as it empowers and upholds changes you desire to make in your belief system.

That's it for today have an awesome week!

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And, if you would like to know more about essential oils here's my link! -HERE



10 Tips on applying The Law Of Detachment

“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” —Tony Robbins


Today's blog is about the Law of Detachment. This is the sixth law in the Universal laws and is so important. You see, in order to acquire anything in the physical Universe, you must relinquish your attachment to it. Thus, trust God totally for your desires at the perfect time.

When we apply this law we have the freedom to leave everything as is, and the freedom to participate without attachment to an idea, a solution, or a goal.
So what are some indications that we are holding on to our desires, or outcomes, and not letting them be in the hands of the Spirit?

What are five indications that we are holding on to our goals, dreams, and desires too tightly?
  1. You constantly think about it and ruminate on it at all times.
  2. You become frustrated and impatient when things don't happen as quickly as you'd like.
  3. You become inflexible and unwilling to consider other options.
  4. You become overly focused on the outcome rather than the process.
  5. You become so obsessed with it that it begins to affect your relationships and other areas of your life.
I'm sure you've experienced some of these five indications in life, and if you find that you are in the midst of one of these, there is hope and a way to change your outcome. When we constantly think about a specific desire and are controlling the outcome, we are limiting the flow of the Universe and God in the direction and result of our desire.

Focusing on the process or the steps that are needed to achieve your desire will leave the outcome unlimited, and may end up so much better than you originally dreamed. Think about how often you've had a desire that when you started along the journey, it opened up to something greater than you ever dreamed possible. When we leave the outcome to Spirit (God) it takes on a greater vision, one that we aren't capable of seeing in the beginning.

Here are 5 tips to apply the Law of Detachment
  1. Take time for self-reflection. Before applying the Law of Detachment, it's important to take time to reflect on your own behavior, emotions, and reactions. Ask yourself what is causing you to be attached to certain people, situations, or outcomes.
  2. Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness can help you be more aware of your thoughts and feelings in each moment, so you can better practice the Law of Detachment.
  3. Let go of expectations. The Law of Detachment is about releasing your expectations from a situation and allowing it to unfold naturally.
  4. Be grateful for what you have. Gratitude can help you put things into perspective and be thankful for the things you have instead of focusing on what you don't have.
  5. Don't be hard on yourself. Remember that it takes practice to learn how to detach and let go of things. Don't be too hard on yourself if you find it challenging at first.
While applying this law needs practice it is well worth being aware of it in your life. All of the seven laws do work together hand in hand and support us to create the life that we truly desire.
The first of the Essential Oils to help with this law is Valor, which instills courage, confidence, and self-esteem, as well as keeps your body in balance and alignment. Stress Away is a blend that brings a feeling of peace and tranquility and also helps to relieve daily stress. You can also use Citrus Fresh or other citrus oils as they stimulate the right brain to amplify creativity and well-being. These oils also are uplifting and help to eradicate anxiety.

Here is my free resource for you today, The X-Factor Formula, which will give you the formula used to create success in every area of your life. HERE! 

And HERE is my link to Essential oils.

Have an awesome week!