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"The Spiritual Power of the Elements: How Fire, Earth, Air, and Water Shape Your Life"

The other day I had this "God" moment and I began to ponder just what the elements had to do with my spirituality, my relationship with God, Jesus and Holy Spirit, so I began to dig.  I love to walk in nature and when I do I feel so close to the Lord.  

I often experience inspiration, and find walking on the earth to be grounding, breathing in the air, refreshing, watching and listening to a creek babble, calming, and gazing at a fire burn in either my fireplace, or burn barrel, cleansing, and transformational.  

In today's blog I want to share some of the information I found, and I trust it will refresh you as well.

Throughout history, the four elements—Fire, Earth, Air, and Water—have carried deep spiritual significance, symbolizing the fundamental forces that shape both the natural world and our inner lives. These elements are more than physical substances; they represent spiritual energies that influence our emotions, thoughts, and personal growth. 

The four elements—Fire, Earth, Water, and Air— can impact your life in different ways:  

🔥 Fire – The element of passion, transformation, and drive. Fire represents energy, motivation, and action. Spiritually, it fuels your inner strength, helping you break through barriers, ignite new ideas, and burn away what no longer serves you. However, when unbalanced, it can lead to burnout, anger, or impulsiveness.  

🌍 Earth – The element of stability, grounding, and growth. Earth represents security, patience, and abundance. It reminds you to stay rooted in your values, build strong foundations, and cultivate resilience. Spiritually, earth energy helps you stay steady amidst chaos, but too much of it can make you feel stuck or resistant to change.  

💨 Air – The element of thought, clarity, and communication. Air represents intellect, intuition, and inspiration. It brings fresh perspectives, encourages open-mindedness, and helps you express your truth. Spiritually, air energy lifts you to new ideas and insights, but too much of it can leave you feeling scattered or disconnected.  

🌊 Water – The element of emotion, healing, and flow. Water represents intuition, adaptability, and inner depth. It teaches you to embrace emotions, trust your instincts, and let go of resistance. Spiritually, water energy helps you cleanse old wounds and move forward, but too much can lead to emotional overwhelm or passivity.  

Let's look at them one at a time.

The Element of Fire: A Force of Transformation and Passion  

Fire is the element of energy, passion, and transformation. It represents the spark of creation, the drive to move forward, and the burning away of what no longer serves us. Spiritually, fire is both a purifier and a catalyst—destroying the old to make way for the new. It fuels ambition, ignites inner strength, and encourages us to step boldly into our purpose. When we embrace the fire within, we gain confidence, motivation, and the courage to take risks, knowing that every challenge is an opportunity for growth.  

However, fire must be balanced. Too much fire can lead to anger, impulsiveness, or burnout, while too little can result in a lack of direction or motivation. Spiritually, fire teaches us to channel our energy wisely, to harness our passion without letting it consume us. It invites us to be mindful of how we use our power—whether in our words, actions, or emotions. When we learn to master the fire within, we unlock our potential to create, inspire, and transform not just ourselves, but the world around us.

The element of fire is often seen as a symbol of the Holy Spirit in many spiritual and religious traditions, particularly in Christianity. Fire represents God’s presence, purification, transformation, and divine power.  

In the Bible, fire frequently symbolizes the presence of God—as seen in the burning bush when God spoke to Moses (Exodus 3:2) and the pillar of fire that guided the Israelites (Exodus 13:21). In the New Testament, fire is directly linked to the Holy Spirit. On the day of Pentecost, the Holy Spirit descended upon the disciples as tongues of fire, filling them with power, boldness, and spiritual gifts (Acts 2:3-4).  

Spiritually, fire burns away impurities, representing the refining work of the Holy Spirit, who convicts, purifies, and strengthens believers. It also signifies passion, zeal, and divine empowerment, igniting faith and spiritual transformation. Just as fire spreads, the Holy Spirit moves within and through people, bringing light, warmth, and renewal.  

The Element of Earth: Stability, Growth, and Grounding 

The element of Earth represents stability, nourishment, and deep-rooted wisdom. Spiritually, it is the foundation upon which we build our lives—providing grounding, security, and a sense of belonging. Earth energy teaches us patience, resilience, and the importance of slow, steady growth. Just as trees take time to grow strong roots before they can reach for the sky, our spiritual journey requires a firm foundation of faith, discipline, and inner peace. When we connect with the earth element, we feel centered, present, and aligned with our purpose.  

However, Earth is not just about stillness; it is also about abundance and creation. It reminds us that just as nature provides everything we need, we are also supported in our journey. Earth energy encourages us to trust the process, to plant seeds of intention, and to nurture our dreams with consistency. On a deeper level, Earth teaches us the importance of balance—between work and rest, giving and receiving, stability and growth. When we are spiritually grounded in the element of Earth, we move through life with confidence, knowing that we are supported, strong, and deeply connected to something greater than ourselves.

The element of Earth is deeply connected to God as a symbol of His creation, provision, and steadfast presence. In the Bible, God formed man from the dust of the earth (Genesis 2:7), showing that our very existence is intertwined with the earth. Just as the earth provides nourishment, stability, and life, God is our ultimate foundation—our rock and refuge (Psalm 18:2). The earth reminds us of God’s sustaining power, as He is the one who provides for all living things, ensuring that we have what we need to grow and flourish.  

Spiritually, the earth element represents God’s faithfulness and unchanging nature. Just as the mountains stand firm and the seasons follow their appointed times, God remains constant and dependable. The earth also teaches us about patience and trust—just as seeds take time to grow, God’s plans unfold in His perfect timing. When we stay rooted in faith, like a tree planted by streams of water (Psalm 1:3), we remain strong, even through life’s storms. The earth element calls us to ground ourselves in God’s word, trust in His provision, and walk in faith, knowing that He is our solid foundation.

The Element of Air: Spirit, Clarity, and Divine Connection 

The element of Air represents breath, intellect, communication, and spiritual connection. It is the invisible yet powerful force that moves through and around us, reminding us of the unseen but ever-present nature of God, life, and spirit. Just as air fills our lungs and gives us life, spiritually, it symbolizes the breath of God—the divine presence that sustains us. In Genesis 2:7, God breathed life into Adam, and in John 20:22, Jesus breathed on His disciples, saying, "Receive the Holy Spirit."  Air represents this divine breath, the source of all life and renewal.  

Spiritually, air also symbolizes clarity, wisdom, and revelation. Like the wind that clears the sky, the element of air helps us remove mental and spiritual fog, bringing understanding and divine guidance. It teaches us to let go of what no longer serves us, allowing the winds of change to move us forward in faith. Air is also connected to prayer and communication—just as sound travels through air, our prayers and thoughts reach God, and He speaks back in whispers of wisdom. When we align with the element of air, we become more open to inspiration, intuition, and spiritual awakening, learning to trust the unseen while embracing the movement of God’s presence in our lives.

The Element of Air and Its Connection to God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit 

The element of Air is deeply symbolic of the presence and movement of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. Air is unseen yet essential, just like God’s presence in our lives. It represents the breath of life, divine wisdom, and spiritual transformation.  

Air and God the Father: The Breath of Life  

In Genesis 2:7, God breathed life into Adam, signifying that life itself comes from Him. This breath is more than oxygen—it is spiritual life, purpose, and connection to the divine. Just as air sustains all living things, God sustains us, giving us wisdom, direction, and strength. His presence moves like the wind—sometimes gentle, sometimes powerful—yet always guiding His people.  

Air and Jesus: The Word That Gives Life  

Jesus, as the Word of God made flesh (John 1:14), also has a strong connection to air. Words travel through the air, carrying messages of truth, wisdom, and power. In John 6:63, Jesus says, "The words I have spoken to you—they are full of the Spirit and life." His teachings, like air, bring clarity, freedom, and renewal. Just as air clears away stagnation, Jesus brings fresh revelation, breaking the chains of sin and giving new life to those who follow Him.  

Air and the Holy Spirit: The Wind of God  

The Holy Spirit is most directly connected to air, often described as the wind of God. In Acts 2:2-4, on the Day of Pentecost, the Holy Spirit came upon the disciples as a rushing mighty wind, filling them with power. In John 3:8, Jesus compares the Spirit to the wind, saying, "The wind blows wherever it pleases. You hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going. So it is with everyone born of the Spirit." This shows how the Spirit moves freely, powerfully, and unseen, guiding, empowering, and transforming lives.  

Spiritual Lessons from the Element of Air 

- Breath of Life – God is the source of all life, just as air sustains us.  
- Divine Communication – Jesus speaks truth that travels like the wind, bringing clarity and wisdom.  
- Movement and Transformation – The Holy Spirit moves like the wind, guiding, filling, and renewing believers.  

When we embrace the element of air spiritually, we learn to trust in the unseen, breathe in God’s presence, and allow the Holy Spirit to guide our lives with fresh inspiration and divine wisdom.

The Element of Water: Cleansing, Renewal, and Spiritual Flow 

Water is one of the most powerful spiritual symbols, representing purification, renewal, and divine presence. It is essential for life, just as our connection with God is essential for our spiritual well-being. In the Bible, water is often used as a symbol of cleansing, transformation, and the Holy Spirit.  

Water and God: Cleansing and Renewal
 
Water is a purifier, washing away impurities and making things new. Spiritually, it reminds us of God's power to cleanse our hearts and renew our souls. In Ezekiel 36:25-26, God says, "I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you will be clean; I will cleanse you from all your impurities and from all your idols. I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you." Just as rain refreshes the earth, God’s presence refreshes and restores us when we feel dry or weary.  

Water and Jesus: Living Water
 
Jesus directly connects Himself to water, offering it as a symbol of eternal life. In John 4:14, He tells the Samaritan woman at the well,"Whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life." This "living water" represents Jesus’ gift of salvation, grace, and spiritual fulfillment—the ultimate source of renewal and satisfaction for our souls.  

Water and the Holy Spirit: Flowing Presence
 
Water is also a representation of the Holy Spirit, who flows through our lives, guiding, healing, and empowering us. In John 7:38-39, Jesus says, "Whoever believes in me, as Scripture has said, rivers of living water will flow from within them." This speaks of the Holy Spirit’s movement, much like a river—ever-flowing, bringing life wherever it goes. Just as water shapes the land over time, the Holy Spirit gradually transforms us, smoothing out our rough edges and leading us toward spiritual growth.  

Spiritual Lessons from Water  

- Cleansing and Forgiveness – God washes away our past and makes us new.  
- Renewal and Life – Jesus provides living water, sustaining and refreshing our souls.  
- Flow and Trust – The Holy Spirit moves like water, leading us when we surrender to His presence.  

Just as water is essential for physical survival, our connection with God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit is essential for our spiritual vitality. When we embrace the element of water spiritually, we learn to let go, trust in God's plan, and allow His presence to refresh and renew us daily


Each element plays a role in balancing your mind, body, and spirit. When they work together, they help you stay aligned, energized, and adaptable in all areas of life. Which element do you feel most connected to right now?

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"Unshakeable: How to Stay Consistent When Life Gets Tough"


Consistency is hard enough at any time let alone when the going gets tough.  Our brain is not geared to like to work hard in fact, our brains are wired to conserve energy, which often leads to taking the path of least resistance. This natural inclination toward laziness can make it tempting to avoid challenges or fall into easy routines, as our minds prioritize short-term comfort over long-term growth.

Our brains are also geared towards patterns, especially familiar patterns because they offer a sense of safety and predictability. Recognizing and repeating known patterns allows the brain to operate more efficiently, reducing cognitive load. When faced with new information or experiences, the brain must work harder to process and adapt, which requires more energy. This is why habits, even ones that may not serve us well, can be so hard to break—they provide a mental shortcut that our brains prefer over the uncertainty of change.

However, this preference for familiarity can also keep us stuck in unproductive or even harmful cycles. When our brains become too comfortable with certain patterns, we may resist new opportunities or challenges that could lead to growth. This aversion to change is rooted in our desire for stability, but it can limit our potential. To grow, it's essential to push beyond the comfort of the familiar and challenge our brains to embrace new experiences, fostering resilience and adaptability.

So, when we are faced with adversity or tough times, our brains like to check out.  The extra load of trying to maintain the familiar while dealing with a problem can send it off the rails.  Suddenly, your determination to keep a healthy routine is now overruled by your brain trying to deal with a new situation and adapt to it.  In times of adversity, our brains naturally resist consistency because they prioritize survival over routine. 

When faced with stress or uncertainty, the brain shifts into a heightened state of alertness, focusing on immediate threats rather than long-term goals. This fight-or-flight response, designed to protect us, can make it difficult to stick to regular habits or maintain discipline. Instead of consistency, the brain seeks quick solutions and relief, often leading to impulsive decisions, procrastination, or avoidance.

Additionally, adversity disrupts the brain’s sense of stability, making it harder to focus on consistent actions. The mental energy needed to manage stress and navigate challenges often depletes the cognitive resources required for discipline and routine. As a result, maintaining consistency can feel like an uphill battle, as the brain prioritizes coping mechanisms over sticking to plans. Overcoming this instinct requires conscious effort and strategies that remind the brain of the long-term benefits of consistency, even when short-term comfort is tempting.

So, what's the answer to keeping your consistency in your business, health, and daily routines, when tough times happen?  Overcoming the brain’s resistance during tough times requires intentional strategies that help reinforce consistency and resilience. Here are some effective methods:

  1. Mindfulness and Meditation: Practicing mindfulness helps to calm the mind, reduce stress, and increase awareness of negative thought patterns. Meditation trains the brain to stay present, making it easier to manage anxiety and maintain focus on long-term goals rather than short-term discomfort.
  2. Break Goals into Small Steps: When facing adversity, large tasks can feel overwhelming. By breaking goals into smaller, manageable steps, you reduce the mental burden and make it easier for your brain to commit to consistent action. Celebrating small wins along the way can also boost motivation and reinforce positive behavior.
  3. Establish Routines: Creating a consistent daily routine can provide stability and a sense of control during chaotic times. Even small rituals, like morning exercise or a set bedtime, can anchor your day and help the brain navigate uncertainty by providing familiar structure.
  4. Positive Self-Talk and Affirmations: During tough times, negative self-talk can easily take over, reinforcing the brain’s instinct to avoid challenges. Replacing these thoughts with positive affirmations helps to shift your mindset, encouraging resilience and a commitment to your goals, even when it's difficult.
  5. Seek Support and Accountability: Sharing your challenges with a friend, coach, or support group can provide the encouragement needed to stay consistent. External accountability adds pressure to follow through on commitments, helping to counteract the brain’s urge to take the easy way out.
  6. Focus on the ‘Why’: Reminding yourself of the deeper reasons behind your goals can strengthen your resolve. When you reconnect with your purpose, it becomes easier to push through discomfort, as the brain recognizes the value of staying consistent despite adversity.
By using these strategies, you can train your brain to prioritize consistency and resilience, even when facing tough times.

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Embracing the Divine Pause; When God Makes You Rest!


In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it's easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of responsibilities, ambitions, and endless to-do lists. But what happens when God intervenes and calls us to rest? This divine pause can be both challenging and transformative, offering a profound opportunity to reconnect with our true selves and with Him. I had to explore the beauty and purpose behind those moments when God made me rest and discover how to embrace this sacred gift with an open heart and mind.

Six months ago, I had a total knee replacement.  I went into this surgery thinking I would recover easily and quickly like I usually do, though it didn't quite go like that.  What I didn't realize is that this was one of the top five major traumatic surgeries you can have, and my recovery was going to be anything but painless and quick.  I fought hard to get back to my office and what I thought I should be doing.  My leg wouldn't tolerate sitting in the chair and my body was recovering from trauma so it wanted to sleep, rest, and recuperate.

MY MIND WAS AT ODDS WITH MY BODY!

I struggled, fought, felt guilty, and even told myself I was just procrastinating!  Yet, none of that was true.  After a couple of months, I stopped fighting and telling myself what I wasn't or should be doing, and started listening.  I realized after praying, and listening, this was a time to "pause" and reflect on exactly what I was doing, and did I need to make yet another change in my life.  Of course, just about when I decided to do this, I got the dreaded Covid again and had to rest.

Recognizing the signs that God is calling you to rest can be crucial for maintaining spiritual, emotional, and physical well-being. Here are some common signs that might indicate it's time to pause and rest:

1. Persistent Fatigue

Feeling constantly tired, even after a full night's sleep, can be a signal that you need to slow down and rest. It's a reminder to take care of your body and spirit.

2. Increased Stress and Anxiety

Heightened stress and anxiety levels can be a sign that you're overextending yourself. God might be nudging you to find peace and solace in Him.

3. Illness or Health Issues

Frequent sickness or health problems can be a wake-up call to prioritize rest and self-care. Your body needs time to heal and rejuvenate.

4. Loss of Joy and Passion

When activities that once brought joy and fulfillment start to feel burdensome, it may be time to take a step back and recharge.

5. Difficulty Hearing God's Voice

If you find it hard to hear God's guidance or feel disconnected in your prayer life, it might be a sign that you need quiet, undistracted time with Him.

6. Irritability and Short Temper

Being more irritable or losing patience easily can indicate burnout. It's a signal to slow down and seek peace and rest in God's presence.

7. Lack of Productivity

Struggling to stay focused or productive can be a sign that your mind and body need a break. Rest can help restore clarity and efficiency.

8. Neglect of Personal Relationships

If you notice you're neglecting relationships with family, friends, or even your relationship with God, it might be time to pause and invest in these connections.

9. Feeling Overwhelmed

A sense of being overwhelmed by life's demands is a clear indication that you need to step back, breathe, and rest.

10. Circumstantial Obstacles

Sometimes, circumstances such as canceled plans, delays, or unexpected free time can be God's way of providing you an opportunity to rest.

11. Scriptural Reminders

Coming across Bible verses or teachings that emphasize rest can be a divine reminder to heed this important aspect of spiritual discipline.

12. Inner Promptings

A persistent inner feeling or sense that you need to slow down can be the Holy Spirit urging you to rest and recharge.

13. Nature and Creation

Observing the natural world and its rhythms can be a gentle reminder of the importance of rest and renewal, as even creation itself follows cycles of rest.
Recognizing these signs and responding to them by taking time to rest can help restore balance and find a deeper connection with God. Remember, rest is not a luxury, but a necessary part of a healthy and spiritually fulfilling life.

So, next time you're feeling like you're trying to walk through mud, or pushing on the door so hard it's exhausting, take a moment to reflect and see whether it's time to embrace a Divine pause, rest, and see where God leads you next!

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Are you "weighed down" or are you "weightless?"


I recently discovered that my left knee must be surgically replaced if I want to stay active.  Now, I am in good health, and go to the gym, though due to not being able to do my usual walks on the mountain my weight has crept to my upper normals over mid to lower normals.  So, I'm going to do something for myself to get stronger and heal quicker after surgery.  I'm going to challenge myself to get back to a few pounds lighter and to maintain my lower healthier weight.

Maintaining a healthy weight offers numerous benefits that positively impact both physical and mental well-being. Firstly, it reduces the risk of developing chronic diseases such as diabetes, heart disease, and certain types of cancer. By keeping weight within a healthy range, individuals can lower their blood pressure, improve cholesterol levels, and enhance overall cardiovascular health. Additionally, maintaining a healthy weight promotes better joint health, reducing the strain on bones and joints, and lowering the risk of conditions such as arthritis.

Secondly, maintaining a healthy weight has significant psychological advantages. It can boost self-esteem and body image, leading to increased confidence and a positive outlook on life. Regular physical activity, which often accompanies weight maintenance, releases endorphins, improving mood and reducing symptoms of depression and anxiety. 

Moreover, individuals who maintain a healthy weight tend to experience better sleep patterns, increased energy levels, and improved cognitive function, allowing them to perform daily tasks more efficiently and effectively. Overall, maintaining a healthy weight is a holistic approach that supports both physical and mental well-being, leading to a higher quality of life.

Exercise is also extremely important, and even if I cannot walk the distances I am used to doing right now, I am still maintaining an exercise regimen three to five days a week. 

Exercise offers a multitude of benefits that positively impact both physical and mental well-being. Firstly, regular physical activity plays a vital role in maintaining a healthy weight and preventing obesity. Exercise helps burn calories, build muscle mass, and improve metabolism, contributing to weight management. Furthermore, exercise promotes cardiovascular health by strengthening the heart and improving circulation, leading to reduced risks of heart disease, high blood pressure, and stroke. It also helps improve lung function and enhances overall endurance and stamina.

Secondly, exercise has significant mental health benefits. Physical activity stimulates the release of endorphins, often called "feel-good" hormones, which can improve mood and reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety. Regular exercise has been shown to enhance cognitive function, memory, and concentration, leading to improved productivity and mental clarity. 

Moreover, exercise provides a healthy outlet for stress relief, helping to reduce stress levels and promote relaxation. It can also boost self-esteem and body image, fostering a positive sense of self and promoting overall mental well-being. In summary, exercise is a powerful tool that benefits both the body and the mind, leading to improved physical health, increased energy levels, and enhanced emotional well-being.

Here are five ways to start exercising

  1. Set achievable goals: Begin by setting realistic and achievable exercise goals. Start with small steps, such as aiming to exercise for 20 minutes three times a week, and gradually increase the duration and frequency as you build stamina and confidence. Setting achievable goals helps maintain motivation and prevents overwhelm.
  2. Find activities you enjoy: Engaging in physical activities you enjoy makes exercise more enjoyable and sustainable in the long run. Experiment with different activities such as walking, cycling, swimming, dancing, or joining a sports team. Discover what you find fun and fulfilling, and incorporate it into your exercise routine.
  3. Make it a habit: Consistency is key when starting an exercise routine. Schedule dedicated time for exercise in your daily or weekly calendar and treat it as an important commitment. Consider exercising at the same time each day to establish a routine and make it a habit that becomes part of your lifestyle.
  4. Start small and progress gradually: It's essential to start at a comfortable level, especially if you're new to exercise or returning after a long break. Begin with low-impact activities and gradually increase the intensity or duration as your fitness level improves. Listen to your body and don't push yourself too hard initially, as this can lead to injury or burnout.
  5. Get support and accountability: Seek support from friends, family, or a workout buddy who can join you in your exercise journey. Having someone to exercise with can make it more enjoyable and provide mutual encouragement. Additionally, consider joining fitness classes or programs that offer structure, guidance, and accountability to help you stay motivated and committed to your exercise routine.
Maintaining a healthy weight not only benefits your physical health but also plays a crucial role in supporting your emotional well-being. Here are five reasons why maintaining a healthy weight helps your emotions:

  1. Improved self-esteem: Achieving and maintaining a healthy weight can boost your self-esteem and body image. Feeling confident in your physical appearance can positively impact your emotional well-being, leading to increased self-worth and a more positive self-image.
  2. Reduced stress levels: Regular exercise, which is often a part of weight maintenance, releases endorphins, which are known as "feel-good" hormones. These endorphins can help reduce stress levels, promote relaxation, and enhance your overall mood.
  3. Enhanced mental clarity: A healthy weight is often associated with a balanced diet and regular physical activity, both of which contribute to improved cognitive function. Proper nutrition and exercise support brain health, leading to better focus, increased mental clarity, and improved emotional stability.
  4. Increased energy levels: Maintaining a healthy weight can provide you with more energy throughout the day. When your body is fueled with nutritious foods and regular exercise, you are more likely to feel energized and ready to tackle daily tasks. Higher energy levels can contribute to a more positive and optimistic outlook on life.
  5. Better sleep quality: Carrying excess weight can sometimes lead to sleep problems such as sleep apnea or disrupted sleep patterns. By maintaining a healthy weight, you can reduce the risk of these issues and promote better sleep quality. Sufficient, restful sleep is essential for emotional well-being, as it helps regulate mood, improves stress management, and enhances overall emotional resilience.
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Things you should know about the third "C"


Changing our thoughts is crucial for our well-being and overall quality of life and can be downright challenging!  Especially when something has happened to cause stress, worry, and chip away at your beliefs.  This is why the 5 "C's" are useful when one of these situations arises.

Changing negative thoughts is crucial for our well-being and overall quality of life. When we allow negative thoughts to take hold, they can consume us and drain our energy, leading to increased stress, anxiety, and unhappiness. By consciously challenging and transforming negative thoughts into positive ones, we empower ourselves to cultivate a more optimistic outlook on life. 

This shift in mindset opens up a world of possibilities, enabling us to see opportunities where we once saw obstacles. It promotes resilience, self-confidence, and a greater sense of control over our emotions and actions. Ultimately, choosing to change negative thoughts allows us to nurture a healthier and more fulfilling inner dialogue, paving the way for personal growth, improved relationships, and a more positive and joyful existence.

Here are five ways to help change a negative thought into a more positive one:

  1. Awareness and Challenge: Begin by becoming aware of negative thoughts as they arise. Pause and consciously question their validity. Ask yourself if there is evidence to support the negative thought or if there could be alternative perspectives. Challenge the negative thought by replacing it with a positive or more balanced statement.
  2. Reframing: Reframing involves consciously shifting your perspective on a situation. Instead of focusing solely on the negatives, try to find the silver lining or a more constructive angle. Look for opportunities for growth, learning, or gratitude within the situation. Reframing allows you to see the bigger picture and reframe negative experiences as valuable lessons.
  3. Positive Affirmations: Positive affirmations are powerful statements that reinforce positive beliefs about oneself. Choose affirmations that counteract your negative thoughts and repeat them regularly. By affirming positive qualities or outcomes, you can rewire your subconscious mind to embrace more positive and empowering thoughts.
  4. Gratitude Practice: Cultivating a gratitude practice can help shift your focus from negative thoughts to the positive aspects of your life. Each day, take a few moments to reflect on things you are grateful for, whether big or small. This practice promotes a mindset of appreciation and helps counterbalance negative thinking patterns.
  5. Self-Compassion: Negative thoughts often stem from self-criticism and judgment. Practice self-compassion by treating yourself with kindness and understanding. When negative thoughts arise, remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes and has setbacks. Offer yourself words of encouragement and remind yourself that you are worthy of love and acceptance.
Remember, changing negative thoughts takes time and practice. Be patient and persistent with these techniques, and gradually you'll experience a shift towards more positive thinking patterns.

To help your brain move to a better thought over a negative one, it's essential to practice awareness and active intervention. Start by recognizing when negative thoughts arise and consciously choose to redirect your focus. Engage in activities that bring you joy and promote a positive mindset, such as listening to uplifting music, reading inspirational books, or engaging in creative outlets. 

Challenge negative thoughts by questioning their validity and searching for alternative, more positive perspectives. Replace negative self-talk with encouraging and supportive affirmations. Surround yourself with positive influences and supportive people who can help shift your perspective. 

Finally, practice self-compassion and forgiveness, recognizing that everyone experiences negative thoughts and setbacks. By consistently practicing these strategies, you can train your brain to seek and embrace better thoughts, leading to increased resilience, happiness, and overall well-being.

Here are five ways to help your brain look for better thoughts over negative ones:

  1. Mindfulness and Meditation: Engage in regular mindfulness and meditation practices. These techniques help you observe your thoughts without judgment and create space between you and your negative thoughts. By cultivating a non-reactive and present-moment awareness, you can interrupt negative thought patterns and create room for more positive and constructive thoughts to emerge.
  2. Surround Yourself with Positivity: Surround yourself with positive influences, such as uplifting books, podcasts, and supportive people. Seek out environments that foster positivity and optimism. The more exposure you have to positive ideas and experiences, the more your brain will naturally gravitate towards better thoughts.
  3. Cognitive Restructuring: Cognitive restructuring is a technique that involves challenging and reframing negative thoughts. When a negative thought arises, consciously question its validity and explore alternative perspectives. Look for evidence that contradicts the negative thought and reframe it into a more positive or balanced statement. Practice this regularly to rewire your brain to seek out better thoughts.
  4. Gratitude Practice: Cultivate a daily gratitude practice. Regularly acknowledge and appreciate the positive aspects of your life, no matter how small. This practice rewires your brain to focus on the good, helping it naturally seek out and generate better thoughts. Consider keeping a gratitude journal or sharing your gratitude with others to enhance the benefits.
  5. Engage in Positive Self-Talk: Pay attention to your internal dialogue and consciously replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations and supportive statements. Be kind and compassionate towards yourself, and consciously choose thoughts that uplift and encourage you. Over time, your brain will learn to default to more positive thoughts and beliefs.
Remember, changing your thought patterns takes time and effort. Be patient and consistent with these practices, and you'll gradually train your brain to seek out better thoughts over negative ones.

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"I loved this book! The author shows us how our thoughts define our future, and provides all the practical information we need to start overcoming obstacles in our lives and achieving things we thought we could never do. Punctuated with stories about her own journey, the author provides a step-by-step guide to finding purpose in life and living it with passion. She teaches us how to identify the things we need to change, and the skills to commit to that change and always be accountable. Importantly, she identifies the power of truly believing in ourselves, and never, ever giving up."   Susan Brown.


 
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Meet Kate Penwarn Thompson

 




DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?



You know when you feel you're emotionally strong but you keep struggling with your weight and lifestyle habits? And, you really want to get out of this rut, move forward, and make positive changes in your life. Your deepest desire is to cut loose from emotions that keep you stuck and get moving and doing in a life you love.


Hey, lovely, whether you're struggling with weight, finances, exes, or everyday events, I can help you find your genius talent and have the confidence to get moving again.   We can do this together.


I  help women who are unhappy juggling life and family get back on track in one hour a week with my proven plan of success of using essential oils.

You don’t have to wait……………you can have it all.



My Story:



I've been through many life-changing moves in my life.  It started with getting a divorce more than a couple of decades ago which changed the whole path to my future.  I left my marriage and got divorced when I was twenty-eight years old with two small children.



I didn't have a job, I was a stay-at-home mum. I hadn't been employed in the workplace for nearly five years and the small allowance given by Social Services was not even close to being able to support me or my kids. In fact, I was pretty broke!



The only other income I had was literally singing for my supper. I was a well-known Singer/Actress in a very popular group at the time and if not for a couple of jobs I managed to get every week singing, I'm not sure how we would have survived.



But, instead of getting bogged down wondering how I was going to support myself and my kids, I used my genius talent and left that divorce behind me. It turned out my divorce made me incredibly strong and independent again.  I got moving and doing on to the life I always wanted to create.



I kicked my ex out and started my new life!



I started my new life feeling free even though finances were a bit of a struggle.  But, because I  believed I could make it all work, it did.  Money was not as much as I would have liked, but it was there when I needed it and I was happy. I missed a meal or two, or three or four, but the kids were fed and I needed to lose a few pounds anyway!



After that came lots of changes.  I attracted my soul mate, got married, and became pregnant almost immediately.  When I was seven months along, my amazing hubby left his cushy Public Service job and started a business.  Never regretted it!



A new path began again!



Suddenly, we were generating our own income which should have been a little scary, but once again I always believed we would succeed, and guess what?  We did!



The business was booming and all was well when our worst nightmare came true.  Our business manager spent every penny of the company's money and left the country.  We were back to square one with a huge debt, and now four kids.



Well, with income being very scarce, I decided I needed to earn some income.  I'd only worked as a professional entertainer for years and had let that lapse a bit having had two extra children in the first two years we were married.  I had to work around them, and leave room for amazing hubby to start again as well.



You won't believe my next move!



I decided to become an Avon Lady. You know, ding dong, door to door, selling out of that little book that came out every three weeks! I think my hubby rolled on the floor laughing, but not for long. You see, I believed I would succeed and succeed I did.  I put my genius talent to work again, and in three months I was one of the top three sales representatives in the State.



Within six months, I was asked to be a Stand-In Manager and manage an Avon District for a Manager on leave.  About twelve months into my little adventure, I was hired by Corporate Avon in Australia as a Manager with my own District,  salary, expense account, and my own car.  I wasn't bringing home two bob anymore, I was a contributor to the family income.



That was the good part. The hard part was my new District was #Thirty out of Thirty-three in the state.  I had my work cut out for me. Well, I'm here to tell you that in six months my District was #Three and nobody was laughing anymore!



My hubby built another Consulting business while I worked at Avon and we were once again back to being abundant in all areas of our life.  The Law of Attraction and Deliberate Creation in action!  We didn't even know these Laws of the Universe were at work in our lives, we just believed in our genius talent!



The surprise move that came next!



Over the next few years, we were financially stable again and I resigned from what had become a grueling time-sucking job at Avon and moved back into the entertainment industry.  During this time amazing brilliant hubby had come up with the idea to write one of the first Anti-Virus programs for computers in the world.



Well, life got pretty sweet, and we were rolling along on the golf course in Brisbane most days when he asked me about a big surprise move!  How did I feel about moving to America?  I never hesitated.  Woo Hoo! I was totally in. 



We began to pack up what we could take with us, our clothes, furniture, my piano and called the movers.  We rented the house, said good-bye and hubby, myself and four kids with half a suitcase each, boarded a plane one Saturday morning in January to start our new adventure.



Everyone thought we were crazy but I knew this was one of the most amazing kick-butt moves I'd ever made in my life.



Then reality set in and I found another new path!



When I actually moved countries, I had become very successful as both a songwriter and performer in my hometown. It never occurred to me that I would not continue my professional music and acting career, but the struggle to re-establish myself was real and after few years I realized that I had to change paths yet again.



I took a year to just find myself and then a whisper came to my ear about adopting a child that needed a home from foster care.  It moved very quickly from a thought to an actuality.  Within a couple of days, we were in a ten-week course for foster/adoptive parents.  We found pure potential when we had no clue that the ability or desire to do this lay deep inside of us. This became one of the most rewarding and fulfilling journeys in my life.



At the end of that ten weeks, I got a phone call and our new family began.  Twin boys, twenty-months old came for the weekend and stayed forever.  They were the first of about fifty foster children and the beginning of adopting eight children, which includes three sets of twins!



I loved my journey of being a foster/adoptive parent, but our house got full to overflowing, and even though most of our children are grown now, I am still an advocate and resource for Foster/Adoptive Parents.



How I decided to become a multi certified Life/Health Coach.



Many of our new children had been born drug and alcohol addicted, so I dealt with many different physical and mental issues that emerged in them as they began to grow up. I spent hours with our children in therapies of all kinds.



While dealing with Physical, Occupational, Speech Therapy, and a few psychiatrists along the way, I learned coping skills for managing different disabilities, and mental illnesses.  I also learned how to have a good relationship with birth families in difficult circumstances.



I also had an older family who was going through teenage years and found myself the local mom and counselor. Many a teenager came into our home crying and left feeling better about themselves and their situation. Although I was technically being a Life Coach to those kids, I didn't officially gain my certifications until much later



In the last couple of decades, I've been constantly changing the path of my life and being successful at doing so. I've also realized that change for some is not easy and making a major move in life can leave you overwhelmed, and exhausted, unable to deal with the feelings around it.



I've also worked with foster and adoptive parents for the last twenty years, who also have to move on when a child is moved to a different placement, and their feelings are very similar to the emotions surrounding any life change.



As well, I've since been touched by divorce in my older adult children's lives.  The biggest stumbling block they've had is moving on to their new life after divorce.



As I 've been there supporting them through their pain, I realized that I wanted to help others find their genius talent to get doing and moving and get their emotional energy flowing again. Through coaching, especially Seven + Seven Essentials, I love seeing them find their new life of joy and happiness.  I love working as a coach alongside essential oils, as the breakthroughs come so much faster when the power of oils is added.  

As a certified Aroma Freedom Technique Practioner, I have not only found the power of healing the mind with oils, but also healing the body.  

I'm a certified Life Coach in Causal Coaching, Law Of Attraction, Money, Health, and Essential Oils. I find that most women who have left marriage not only have emotions surrounding it but quite often now battle with their health and their finances. I triumphed over all of these issues, I moved on and never looked back. I can help you.



Where I am today.



Today, I am a confident mother of twelve children, a partner to an amazing man, and stepping out into everything the Universe and God have for me.  I value myself as a businesswoman, a wife, a mother, and no longer fear a change in direction.  I embrace all parts of me, creative, physical, mental, spiritual, and nourish each part of myself, with self-coaching, nutrition, and the power of essential oils.



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