"Mind Over Matter: Exploring the Power of Mental Resilience"

In the last few months, as I have been recovering from knee replacement surgery, I have had to do a lot of "mind over matter." There have been times of incredible pain, frustration, feeling hopeless, physical therapy that made me cry two or three times a week, and the overall feeling of what happened to life as I once knew it.

I'm grateful to be able to walk better and get on with life, as well as all the training and study I've done in the last ten years about how my thoughts affect my emotions and my actions.  Oh, I have not been perfect, and struggling with my mind trying to stay positive and look to a better future with more mobility, has not been easy.  It has been "MIND OVER MATTER!"

So, what does that mean? In our fast-paced, ever-changing world, the concept of "mind over matter" has become a popular and maybe overused phrase. At its core, this phrase embodies the idea that your thoughts, beliefs, and mental strength can have a profound impact on your physical reality. Whether it’s overcoming physical challenges, enduring pain, or pushing beyond perceived limitations, the power of the mind is a crucial element in achieving extraordinary feats. But what does "mind over matter" really mean, and how can you harness this power in your everyday life?

Understanding "Mind Over Matter"

"Mind over matter" suggests that mental strength and determination can transcend physical barriers. It’s a concept rooted in various philosophical, psychological, and spiritual traditions. Historically, it has been associated with the belief that the mind holds the power to shape reality. This idea is not just a philosophical musing but is supported by scientific evidence as well. 

For instance, if you believe you can produce a certain, or desired result this can lead to real physiological improvements, highlighting the influence of the mind on the body.  This truly is using your mind and your belief system to produce the results you desire.

From a psychological perspective, mental resilience – the ability to bounce back from adversity – is the belief and expectation of "mind over matter." If you can develop high mental resilience you will navigate life's challenges with greater ease, maintaining a positive outlook and finding solutions where others see only obstacles. This resilience is not an inherent trait but a skill that can be cultivated through practices such as mindfulness, cognitive-behavioral techniques, and fostering a supportive social network.

The Role of Mental Resilience

Mental resilience is the cornerstone of "mind over matter." It involves maintaining flexibility and balance when faced with stressful situations. When you are resilient you are not immune to difficulties though can recover from setbacks more quickly. You begin to view challenges as opportunities for growth rather than insurmountable barriers. This mindset enables you to stay focused, motivated, and persistent even in the face of adversity.

One of the key aspects of building mental resilience is cultivating a positive and realistic outlook. 

This involves recognizing negative thought patterns and consciously replacing them with more constructive ones. Cognitive-behavioral strategies can be particularly effective in this regard, helping you to reframe your thoughts and develop a more optimistic perspective. 

Additionally, mindfulness practices, such as meditation and deep-breathing exercises, can enhance emotional regulation, reduce stress, and promote a sense of calm and clarity.

Practical Steps to Harness "Mind Over Matter"

  1. Mindfulness and Meditation: Engaging in regular mindfulness and meditation practices can help you stay grounded and focused, reducing the impact of negative thoughts and emotions. These practices enhance your ability to remain calm and collected, even in stressful situations.
  2. Positive Affirmations: Incorporate positive affirmations into your daily routine. Affirmations are statements that reinforce a positive self-image and mindset, helping to boost confidence and resilience. For example, repeating phrases like "I am strong" or "I can handle whatever comes my way" can reinforce a resilient mindset.
  3. Cognitive-Behavioral Techniques: Learn to identify and challenge negative thought patterns. Cognitive-behavioral techniques can help you reframe your thinking, turning obstacles into opportunities for growth. This can involve questioning the validity of negative thoughts and replacing them with more balanced, constructive ones.
  4. Supportive Relationships: Build and maintain a strong support network. Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive individuals can provide emotional support and practical assistance during tough times. Having a community to rely on can significantly enhance your resilience.
  5. Goal Setting: Set realistic and achievable goals. Breaking down larger challenges into manageable steps can make them seem less daunting and help you stay focused and motivated. Celebrate your progress along the way to maintain momentum.


"Mind over matter" is more than just a catchy phrase; it's a powerful principle that underscores the incredible potential of the human mind. By cultivating mental resilience, you can navigate life's challenges with greater ease, turning setbacks into opportunities for growth. Through mindfulness, positive affirmations, cognitive-behavioral techniques, supportive relationships, and goal setting, you can harness the power of your mind to overcome physical and mental barriers. In doing so, you not only enhance your well-being but also inspire those around you to recognize and tap into their inner strength.

By integrating these aspects into daily life, prayer can significantly enhance your ability to withstand and recover from adversity, thereby promoting overall mental resilience.

Psalm 23:4 (NIV): "Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me."

This verse provides comfort and courage, emphasizing God's presence and protection even in the darkest and most challenging times

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"Mental Shifts for Physical Changes: Mindset Tips for Weight Management"

So many times when trying to shed those extra pounds, we truly do wish we got a little better number on the scale.  Though getting feel "weightless" is not as easy as holding a few balloons to get a lighter number!  Even if you are sticking to a eating plan religiously, you will have hic cups along the way, and even abandon your good intentions because your mind is not in the right frame of thinking.

Why does your mind need to change it's way of thinking to succeed in a new eating plan?

Here are ten mindset shifts that will help you have success.

1. Adopt a Growth Mindset:

SHIFT:  View challenges as opportunities to learn and grown rather than insurmountable obstacles.
BENEFIT:  Encourages persistence and resilience, helping you stay committed even when faced with setbacks.

2. Focus on Progress, Not Perfection:

SHIFT: Understand that small consistent improvements are more sustainable than striving for perfection.
BENEFIT: Reduces pressure and stress, making it easier to stay on track and avoid feelings of failure.

3. Set Realistic Goals:

SHIFT: Establish attainable and specific goals instead of vague or overly ambitious ones.
BENEFIT: Enhances motivation and provides clear milestones to celebrate along the way.

4. Practice Self-Compassion:

SHIFT: Be kind to yourself when you slip up instead of engaging in negative self-talk
BENEFIT: Maintains a positive attitude and prevents thee guilt and shame that can derail progress

5. Develop a Long-Term Perspective:

SHIFT: View your new eating plan as a lifelong commitment to health rather than a temporary fix.
BENEFIT: Encourages sustainable habits that contribute to lasting weight management.

6. Embrace Mindful Eating:

SHIFT:  Pay attention to what, when, and how you eat, rather than eating mindlessly.
BENEFIT: Helps you recognize hunger and fullness cues, leading to healthier eating patterns.

7. Prioritize Self-Care:

SHIFT: Make time for activities that nourish your mind and body, such as sleep, relaxation, and hobbies.
BENEFIT:  Reduces stress and emotional eating, promoting overall well-being.

8. Cultivate a Supportive Environment:

SHIFT: Surround yourself with people and resources that encourage and support your goals
BENEFIT: Provides motivation, accountability, and a sense of community, making it easier to stay on track.

9. Visualize Success:

SHIFT: Regularly imagine yourself achieving your goals and enjoying the benefits.
BENEFIT:  Reinforces positive behavior and keeps you focused on your desired outcome.

10. Say Flexible and Adaptable:

SHIFT: Be open to adjusting your plan as needed rather than rigidly sticking to a strict regimen.
BENEFIT: Allows you to navigate challenges and changes in circumstances without giving up on your goals.

Each of these ten mindset changes will help you to achieve releasing unwanted weight from your body.  All of these mindset shifts can be applied to any goal you have in your life!  In fact, I'll bet my bottom dollar you've either read or heard these changes with regards to a business goal, or a financial goal.


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Try this exercise to change your mood, or thought, in under a minute.

1.  Identify what's the problem, and describe the situation.

2. Choose one feeling word to describe how you feel about the situation.

3.  Where in your body that that feeling live?

4. If a Neutral or Positive situation, go to Step 5. If it's a negative situation, listen for what the negative voice says about that feeling or situation.

What did it say?

5.  Take one drop of Lavender, Stress Away, and Frankincense in the palm of your hand and rub clockwise.  Breathe the oils into the situation you're picturing and into the feeling, and the sensation.  Observe what happens.

6. After a few moments of breathing into the oils, and when you are feeling more relaxed, go within and listen for what your Higher Voice/God/Holy Spirit has to say about this situation now.  What did it say?

Write any new ideas you have received on a post-it note or a journal and place it somewhere you will see it.

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Embracing the Divine Pause; When God Makes You Rest!

In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it's easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of responsibilities, ambitions, and endless to-do lists. But what happens when God intervenes and calls us to rest? This divine pause can be both challenging and transformative, offering a profound opportunity to reconnect with our true selves and with Him. I had to explore the beauty and purpose behind those moments when God made me rest and discover how to embrace this sacred gift with an open heart and mind.

Six months ago, I had a total knee replacement.  I went into this surgery thinking I would recover easily and quickly like I usually do, though it didn't quite go like that.  What I didn't realize is that this was one of the top five major traumatic surgeries you can have, and my recovery was going to be anything but painless and quick.  I fought hard to get back to my office and what I thought I should be doing.  My leg wouldn't tolerate sitting in the chair and my body was recovering from trauma so it wanted to sleep, rest, and recuperate.


I struggled, fought, felt guilty, and even told myself I was just procrastinating!  Yet, none of that was true.  After a couple of months, I stopped fighting and telling myself what I wasn't or should be doing, and started listening.  I realized after praying, and listening, this was a time to "pause" and reflect on exactly what I was doing, and did I need to make yet another change in my life.  Of course, just about when I decided to do this, I got the dreaded Covid again and had to rest.

Recognizing the signs that God is calling you to rest can be crucial for maintaining spiritual, emotional, and physical well-being. Here are some common signs that might indicate it's time to pause and rest:

1. Persistent Fatigue

Feeling constantly tired, even after a full night's sleep, can be a signal that you need to slow down and rest. It's a reminder to take care of your body and spirit.

2. Increased Stress and Anxiety

Heightened stress and anxiety levels can be a sign that you're overextending yourself. God might be nudging you to find peace and solace in Him.

3. Illness or Health Issues

Frequent sickness or health problems can be a wake-up call to prioritize rest and self-care. Your body needs time to heal and rejuvenate.

4. Loss of Joy and Passion

When activities that once brought joy and fulfillment start to feel burdensome, it may be time to take a step back and recharge.

5. Difficulty Hearing God's Voice

If you find it hard to hear God's guidance or feel disconnected in your prayer life, it might be a sign that you need quiet, undistracted time with Him.

6. Irritability and Short Temper

Being more irritable or losing patience easily can indicate burnout. It's a signal to slow down and seek peace and rest in God's presence.

7. Lack of Productivity

Struggling to stay focused or productive can be a sign that your mind and body need a break. Rest can help restore clarity and efficiency.

8. Neglect of Personal Relationships

If you notice you're neglecting relationships with family, friends, or even your relationship with God, it might be time to pause and invest in these connections.

9. Feeling Overwhelmed

A sense of being overwhelmed by life's demands is a clear indication that you need to step back, breathe, and rest.

10. Circumstantial Obstacles

Sometimes, circumstances such as canceled plans, delays, or unexpected free time can be God's way of providing you an opportunity to rest.

11. Scriptural Reminders

Coming across Bible verses or teachings that emphasize rest can be a divine reminder to heed this important aspect of spiritual discipline.

12. Inner Promptings

A persistent inner feeling or sense that you need to slow down can be the Holy Spirit urging you to rest and recharge.

13. Nature and Creation

Observing the natural world and its rhythms can be a gentle reminder of the importance of rest and renewal, as even creation itself follows cycles of rest.
Recognizing these signs and responding to them by taking time to rest can help restore balance and find a deeper connection with God. Remember, rest is not a luxury, but a necessary part of a healthy and spiritually fulfilling life.

So, next time you're feeling like you're trying to walk through mud, or pushing on the door so hard it's exhausting, take a moment to reflect and see whether it's time to embrace a Divine pause, rest, and see where God leads you next!

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I Felt Like a Fake!

The first words out of my mouth after I walked in was "Honey I feel like a fake!"

I had walked in for surgery with no limp, no walker, no cane, no wheelchair, so why was I here? Everybody else had not walked in without help of some sort.

I knew that answer.

A knee replacement. A constant cry from my orthopedic doctor for seven years!

I did the gel shots and they worked at first, but then in June they worked no more.

I couldn't exercise the way I used to.

I couldn't walk the mountain.

My body was being pulled out of alignment because my left leg was out of alignment because of the chronic arthritis, and the bone on bone situation in my knee.

I would go to the chiropractor and she would put me back only for my leg to pull me right back out.

My brain would tell me I was ok, it was ok, but somewhere that voice inside said, "Nope, you ain't OK!"

Turns out my brain was used to, and was suppressing, the actual pain I was feeling.

No wonder, I was tired, dragging along without motivation, purpose, intent, and struggling to get through each and every day.

My normal exercise routine was out the window, I was beat by five o'clock, my memory and mind was foggy, and I told myself it was managing a large family, with work and life balance.

All baloney, and what my mind had got used too!

"I feel like a fake!"  That statement came from all of my brains efforts to "keep calm and carry on."  Don't rock the boat.  You're fine, take a pain pill.

Well none of it was fake, my brain was giving me misinformation and I was buying it.

Twenty-four hours after surgery, I have less pain, and my mind is sharp again.  My first thoughts this morning was, "It's November 1st!  The Thirty Day Abundance Challenge."

No more drowning in repressing pain and the feelings that came with that.

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"Unlocking Self-Awareness: Breaking Free from Unhealthy Habits"

Being self-aware regarding unhealthy habits is an essential step towards personal growth and well-being. It involves a conscious recognition of behaviors or routines that are detrimental to our physical, mental, or emotional health. This awareness is like shining a light on the dark corners of our lives, where these habits often lurk unnoticed. 

It begins with an honest assessment of oneself, which can be both enlightening and challenging. Acknowledging these habits takes courage because it means facing the truth about our choices and their consequences.

Once we become self-aware of these unhealthy habits, we gain the power to make positive changes. This newfound awareness allows us to take responsibility for our actions and empowers us to break free from destructive patterns. It opens the door to self-improvement, as we can now set goals, seek support, and develop strategies to replace these habits with healthier alternatives. 

Self-awareness regarding unhealthy habits is a vital step on the journey towards a happier, more balanced, and fulfilling life. It's the first step towards taking control of our destiny and shaping a future that aligns with our values and aspirations.

Learning to be self-aware is a valuable skill that can greatly enhance personal growth and well-being. Here are some ways to develop and improve self-awareness:

  1. Meditation and Mindfulness: Practicing meditation and mindfulness techniques can help you become more in tune with your thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations. These practices encourage you to observe your thoughts without judgment, promoting self-awareness.
  2. Journaling: Keeping a journal allows you to reflect on your thoughts and feelings. Write about your experiences, goals, and challenges. Regularly reviewing your journal can help you identify patterns and gain insights into your behavior.
  3. Self-Reflection: Set aside time regularly to reflect on your life, choices, and actions. Ask yourself questions like, "Why did I react that way?" or "What are my core values?" These introspective moments can lead to a deeper understanding of yourself.
  4. Seek Feedback: Ask for honest feedback from friends, family, or colleagues about your strengths and weaknesses. Sometimes, others can provide insights you might have overlooked.
  5. Practice Active Listening: Improve your listening skills by being fully present when others speak. This can help you better understand their perspectives and, in turn, enhance your self-awareness in social situations.
  6. Mind-Body Connection: Pay attention to your physical sensations, such as tension, discomfort, or relaxation. These bodily cues can often provide clues about your emotional state and areas of concern.
  7. Therapy or Counseling: Consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor. They can offer guidance and techniques to explore your thoughts and emotions in a safe and supportive environment.
  8. Personality Assessments: Take personality assessments like the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), the Enneagram, or the Big Five personality traits. While not definitive, these tools can provide valuable insights into your personality and behavior.
  9. Set Clear Goals: Define your short-term and long-term goals. Knowing what you want to achieve can help you evaluate your progress and whether your actions align with your objectives.
  10. Learn from Mistakes: Embrace failure and mistakes as opportunities for growth. Analyze what went wrong and what you can do differently next time. This process can reveal areas for self-improvement.
  11. Regular Check-Ins: Schedule regular check-ins with yourself to assess your overall well-being, including your physical, mental, and emotional health. Adjust your routines and habits accordingly.
  12. Stay Curious: Cultivate a curious mindset by continuously seeking to learn and explore new things. The more you learn, the more you understand yourself and the world around you.
Remember that self-awareness is an ongoing process. It takes time and effort to develop, but the benefits are profound. By actively working on self-awareness, you can make more informed decisions, improve your relationships, and lead a more fulfilling life.

The Bible also contains several examples that highlight the importance of being self-aware of unhealthy habits and the need for repentance and change. Here are a few notable biblical examples:

  1. King David's Adultery and Murder (2 Samuel 11-12): King David's affair with Bathsheba and the subsequent murder of her husband, Uriah, serve as a powerful example of the consequences of unchecked desires and a lack of self-awareness. It was only when the prophet Nathan confronted David with a parable that David realized the gravity of his actions and repented, demonstrating the need for self-awareness and moral reflection.
  2. The Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32): In the parable of the prodigal son, a young man squanders his inheritance on sinful living and eventually hits rock bottom. It is only when he becomes self-aware of his mistakes and the consequences of his actions that he decides to return to his father in repentance. This story emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's unhealthy habits and making the choice to change.
  3. The Apostle Peter's Denial (Matthew 26:69-75): Peter's threefold denial of knowing Jesus during His trial illustrates how unaware we can be of our own weaknesses. Peter confidently asserted he would never betray Jesus, but when faced with the situation, he crumbled. This experience prompted Peter to confront his own limitations and ultimately led to his transformation and strengthened commitment.
  4. Saul's Persecution of Christians (Acts 9): Saul, who later became the Apostle Paul, was initially a zealous persecutor of Christians. His journey to self-awareness occurred when he encountered Jesus on the road to Damascus. This transformative experience forced him to confront his misguided beliefs and unhealthy habits, leading to a complete change in his life's direction.
  5. The Rich Young Ruler (Matthew 19:16-22): In this story, a rich young man asks Jesus what he must do to inherit eternal life. Jesus advises him to sell his possessions and follow Him, but the man cannot let go of his wealth. This encounter demonstrates the struggle many people face in recognizing and overcoming attachments to material possessions and the need for self-awareness in making life-changing decisions.
These biblical examples illustrate the importance of self-awareness in recognizing and addressing unhealthy habits and sinful behaviors. They show that true repentance and transformation often begin with a deep reflection on one's actions, motives, and the consequences of their choices. Through self-awareness, individuals can turn away from destructive habits and seek forgiveness and redemption, aligning their lives with God's will and purpose.

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