So, what is SANE???????
Well, I always say "insanity" is heredity, you get it from your kids, although I think these last couple of years have taken a toll on most Mamas.
Whether you've been homeschooling and working, or homeschooling and never getting a break, not being able to be as social as "normal," or feeling locked in, you've probably felt the shift in how feelings are flowing.
And, now things are starting to get going again, it's hard to find the new normal, the new sane, and get out of the sweatpants, and find out if you have been using food as a comfort just a tad too much!
With all of this craziness of the seemingly endless mask-wearing, non-socializing lifestyle comes fear. Fear of being ill, fear of not being enough for everyone, fear surrounding teaching your kids, fear of your marriage coming to a place of disarray because of close quarters and short tempers. Fear of the news, the numbers, what's coming next, and keeps you from being yourself, or what you once knew as yourself.
Fear comes in all forms and generally ends up with you feeding it unintentionally. Food, wine, binge-watching Netflix because of the lack of social interaction with your peers. It can make you overprotective of your kids, eat way more take-out than you should, and be frustrated as well as short-tempered.
So, what can you do as things begin to get back to what will become the "new normal?" Here are a few tips:
1. Let go of perfection.
Let's face it, this is not the time to even try to be the "perfect Mama!" If, and I do mean IF, there is such a thing. Perfection is FEAR! Yup, fear of failing, fear of not being enough, fear of not getting your home is house and garden LOL! Let perfection go, and the stress will ease up.
2. Having a schedule to manage the "unknown."
As a Mama of a very large family, routines and schedules are a must. In the last couple of years, all of that had to be flexible and schedules had to be reworked to fit what was happening, both known, and unknown. Kids feel way more secure with a routine, and when you have one in place, their behavior improves, and life gets to have more sanity and insanity!
3. Calming the storms.
As much as you can feel overwhelmed and frustrated, so can kids. In fact, your energy of anxiety, overwhelm, or frustration, will attract the same from your kids, and vice versa. When they are acting out if you can take a breath and stay calm, your energy will cause them to be calm as well. Sounds crazy? No. Two opposite energies cannot exist in the same space. So keep your sanity by breathing your way and theirs to calmness.
4. Emotions are waves.
All feelings are waves, felt internal, and cannot last forever. They will pass through and diminish if you are present, aware, and let them. Emotions are waves until there is an action that then escalates the feeling into an emotion. Emotions are feelings with actions. It's not great to hide your feelings as they tend to build up and then explode as an action-packed emotion. Let your kids know when you need a hug as well as comfort them when they need one.
5. Embrace every opportunity.
Kids are resilient, but they have feelings and emotions. They have personalities, and if yours are anything like mine, they are all different. Take every opportunity to make each child know they are understood, loved, and wanted. Just like you can have thoughts of rejection, unworthiness, and loneliness, your kids can have those too.
Let them know you're their cheerleader as well as their Mama.
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That's it for now! Give yourself some love today!
Okie dokie! It's nearly February!
The so called month of love................
Valentine's Day!
Red roses, chocolates, diamonds, and anything else you can think of!
I'm going to go here and talk about the different scenarios for this particular holiday......
One is you're happily coupled, meaning, married, betrothed, but together with your mate.
Two is you're unhappily coupled..........with all that comes with that........
And three you're alone. No partner, just you and friends.
In every one of these situations, there is love, great love, to be experienced and built upon.
I know you are going, well, I can't see that, but let's just take a step back and look at a few things I could mention that have worked in my forty-two years of amazing marriage with my awesome hubby!
First and foremost there is the Platinum Rule. This goes for couples and for singles.
For couples? You treat your partner better than yourself, and always put them first. Applies to both partners.
For singles? You treat yourself better than anyone else and make sure you're not saying Yes when you should be saying NO!
When you are already in a harmonious relationship, this Platinum rule will take your marriage, or partnership to a much greater level. Imagine putting each others needs ahead of your own. Do you know how good that feels?💖
And, even if it is only one-sided to start off, it will change the dynamics. There will be more kindness, pleasure, and all the good feels.
Now, if the relationship is a little rocky, applying the Platinum rule is going to take this out of rocky to a more stable, friendly, and kind place. It's hard to argue when someone is intentionally being kind and looking after you. When that significant other has cooked a favorite meal, or put candles on the table, opened a bottle of wine, and laid out the cheese and crackers! 💖
Mending relationships has to start somewhere so why not with you? You'll be surprised how that tension eases when there's loving kindness involved.
And, so you're single.............for whatever reason. Well, there's no need not to celebrate yourself, your achievements, and give yourself some self-care/love. ❤️
Intentional loving kindness will melt the ice, the tension, the argument, and the resistance, as long as you can let go of any resistance you feel. Taking the first step and letting go of any negative feelings whether that's with a partner or yourself is the road to not only living a better life, having a better relationship, but to the art of "Having It All."
You see you already have the power of love living within you. Tap into that power and let it loose!
You also have the power within you to change your feelings when they don't align with how you want to feel. Take a moment and start thinking on better things. When you start thinking of a better situation, not apportioning blame, not assuming you know what the other person is thinking, then the feeling will change. When you begin to look for the good, the feeling will change, and the relationship will change.
Deliberately creating what you want means you focus on what you want the outcome to be, even in relationships. Bringing good, happy, wonderful, memories to mind, changes how you think and you feel.
Using a Young Living emotional Essential Oil will help make this work better and faster. If you don't know about those then book a coffee chat with me and I'll be happy to help you.
Changing our feelings, and emotions is key to good relationships.
Speaking and acting with kindness is key to good relationships.
Applying the Platinum rule is key to GREAT relationships.
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Our brain is powerful!
It can be logical, practical, creative, intuitive, create thoughts, powerful, and silent.
We have a thinking part, (the left brain,) and a feeling part, (the right brain.)
And when they come together to be single-minded, we have power, the ability to act, make huge changes in our lives, be healthy, peaceful, and joyous.
Now, ask yourself, how often are you single-minded?
Most of the time, if you're like me, I am struggling with my left and right brain having a tug of war!
I write a list of your desires, goals, dreams, and then the feelings of doubt, fear, unworthiness, and self-sabotage start to make those things I really want seem almost impossible.
So, then the buffering comes in.
"What's buffering" you may ask.
It's all the things you do that stop you from consciously putting the two sides of your brain together and get it done.
When you know that you need to write that schedule for next week or food prep so you won't cheat, or put your latest blog, or offer out there for people to see, you sidetrack yourself. You watch some rubbish TV or eat a bag of chips, scroll through social media, anything but put in the work to get the desires of your heart.
Why does this happen, and why does it happen so often?
Because really the brain thinks it's protecting us from doing something uncomfortable.
And, to intentionally create the desires of your heart requires you to get uncomfortable.
Life changes, which come from changing feelings, and thoughts, require single-mindedness. Single-mindedness requires the conscious effort to bring both sides of the brain into harmony. To a single mind.
A mind that is powerful, and can create all of the things you wish to have.
Learning to be single-minded takes being mindful. Practicing mindfulness. Daily, hourly, every time you feel distracted from your purpose.
Mindful of thoughts.
Mindful of words.
Mindful of feelings.
When we feel one thing, and think the same one thing, we are using our whole brain.
We are no longer at war inside, we are no longer double-minded, we are single-minded on that one thing.
And_that_is_mind_blowing!
To put it simply, to create your success, your desires, your goals, you need to agree with both sides of your brain.
SINGLE-MINDEDNESS
BOOM!
Have more "BOOM" moments in your life!
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Well, we all have New Year's resolutions right?
I can say for myself that I usually do and they are different goals for different parts of my life. I actually love to look back at my diary and see what I wrote last year and how did that all go? I dreaded doing that this year because I really thought we would be through with this pandemic, and somehow magically biz and life would resume to somewhat what they looked like before.
Well, I'm pretty sure some of you can agree that 2021 seemed like a long 2020, and no, for the most part, things did not pan out like they used to. I found myself pivoting, procrastinating, putting plans in place to find that people weren't ready to socialize, and feeling like life in some ways was great, but in other areas seemed to slide down the rabbit hole.
I'm not one to give up, and I know for sure you aren't, so as the seasons flowed through I realized I needed to stop swimming upstream and go with the flow. Finding the flow was a bit tricky, but I knew it was out there if I just persisted, and find it I did.
Right now we are in the Holiday season where stress, and overwhelm can get us if we let it. It's a season of too much food where we are tempted to overeat, or sometimes overdrink, in the spirit of being merry, and if we go too much with that flow our New Year's resolution will include losing the Christmas season's extra 10lb!
My resolutions for the next year have been tweaked and changed a little. Oh, there'll be the usual biz goals, personal, spiritual, and growth goals, and also the goal to go with the flow of things. Allow for the unexpected, give time to rest, and recuperate, make time for fun, laughter, prayer, and meditation, so life looks a little more balanced.
This year, I've lost some dear friends, not just to the pandemic, but to stress, resulting in lives being ended too soon. It's made me stop and think about what life is really for. Being abundant in all areas of my life, not just slogging away for finances, goals, cleaning, washing, cooking (unless I'm enjoying that,) making sure of my physical fitness, and attending to my quiet times as in prayer, and meditation.
This next year my motto is New Year, New You!
Did you find yourself in a similar situation?
What would you like to find that would transform your New Year into a New You?
What would you like to find that would transform your New Year into a New You?
Most women I know are wanting to finally get their ideal body, and their ideal mindset to enable them to not worry about always trying to fit into those jeans that really look great, and are just a bit too tight.
We can all go on diets, and I have done that just like you probably have, and I've found that to be tedious, stressful, and in the end, unsuccessful. When I learned that to find my ideal body and keep it revolved around my mind, and mindfulness, that's when I found and kept the body that has served me well.
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Ugh! Every time I open a magazine, there she is.
The "perfect" woman.
The one who is wearing the clothes just right, and they cling in all the right places. Right!
And, then I check myself out. Not too bad.............but don't take off the clothes!
I used to be like that in a big way.
Too often, I would judge my body, way more critically than anybody else.
Why is that?
Because we are programmed that way!
Magazines, clothes stores, TV, media everywhere............no matter how hard they try, they end up reverting to what they think everyone wants to see.
And, the impact of that gets into our brain.........deep down.........to join other memories we have of when we have been made to "feel" imperfect.
So, let's address that. What is perfect? There is no perfect. Because, there's no one perfect when we combine our whole self like our mind, our emotions, our physical, and our spiritual self.
And, perfect is just a made-up illusion. Why? There are very few of us that meet that supposed "perfect."
Do you remember Barbie? I do. I remember my kid sister playing with her "Barbies." They had impossible waists, large hips, and boobs to die for. Tall, willowy, and curvy in all the right places.
ALERT!!!!!
I've never seen one woman ever look like Barbie! I don't even think I choose to LOL!
Women I know have small chests, big ones, small waists with larger than life bums and thighs, straight up and down, no ass, no boobs, stretch marks, large thighs, and skinny calves, and even the ones I know that workout hard, have had a touch up here and there. On their face, a lift or something bigger in the boobs, a butt lift, a tummy tuck, liposuction, arm tucks, butt implants, lips, eyebrows, cheeks, and I could go on.
Why??????????????????????????
Because we are programmed.
What if we weren't? Maybe a lot of people would go out of business, but we would stop worrying about what we think is imperfect and put all that energy into something that's real, something that will bring laughter, happiness, and joy.
Now, I'm going to be real here. Have I tried some of this stuff?
Hell yeah! And, did it bring me joy, peace, and happiness? HELL NO!
Just more worry about where the next wrinkle or tummy roll came from.
You see, perfect is really an illusion that we really believe in. Why?
Because we're programmed.
It's all in our brain. Lying down there with imperfect memories waiting to literally bite us in the bum, but really biting us in our continuous thoughts about how we look, feel, and how we can pretend, just for a minute, that we are really ok.
So, what is important.
Being fully aligned.
That brings power.
Loving the body you're in, and being conscious of finding your ideal body.
So, what's that?
The body that is meant for you. The one that was created for you. Not a dress size, or a shape, the one where when you eat healthily 80% of the time, notice your emotions, listen to your mind, keep active, and be consciously listening to the spirit within.
The YOU, that takes time for self-care, loves her stretch marks (cause that's a reminder of her children,) looks in her husband, or lover's eyes, and sees love for the person she is inside and out. The one that loves your curves, or your flat chest, your boy body, or your voluptuous one. Or, the partner you're attracting that will only see your soul, and disregard imperfection because if he/she doesn't? Then that ain't your soul partner.
Summing this blog up, the one that loves you does not see your imperfections. They see your very soul. The essence of who YOU are, not what you think you should be.
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And, remember, be kind to yourself and others.
Ta Ta for now!
Kate
