10 things about Self Coaching you should know!


Let's talk about why self-coaching can be life-changing in all areas of life.

Self-coaching is a powerful approach to personal growth and development. It involves taking on the role of both the coach and the coachee, allowing you to guide yourself toward your desired goals and outcomes. Self-coaching empowers you to become more self-aware, reflective, and proactive in your journey of self-improvement. It involves setting clear objectives, identifying obstacles, and developing strategies to overcome them. 

Through self-coaching, you can cultivate a deeper understanding of yourself, your strengths, and your areas for improvement. You can set realistic action plans, monitor your progress, and make necessary adjustments along the way. Self-coaching provides a sense of autonomy and ownership over one's personal development, leading to increased self-confidence and a greater sense of fulfillment.

One of the key benefits of self-coaching is the ability to tailor the process to individual needs and preferences. It allows you to explore your unique perspectives and insights, promoting a more personalized and meaningful growth experience. Self-coaching also fosters a sense of accountability, as you take responsibility for your actions and decisions. 

You become an active participant in your own development, which can lead to increased motivation and a stronger commitment to achieving your goals. Moreover, self-coaching can be a lifelong skill that you can apply to various aspects of your life, empowering you to learn, adapt, and grow continuously. By embracing self-coaching, you can unlock your full potential and create a life that aligns with your values and aspirations.

Here are five benefits of self-coaching:

  1. Increased Self-Awareness: Self-coaching enables you to develop a deep understanding of your strengths, weaknesses, values, and aspirations. By exploring your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, you gain insight into what drives you and what holds you back. This heightened self-awareness allows for more intentional decision-making and empowers you to align your actions with your true self.
  2. Enhanced Problem-Solving Skills: Through self-coaching, you learn to identify and analyze challenges and obstacles that stand in the way of your goals. You develop critical thinking and problem-solving skills, enabling you to come up with creative and effective strategies to overcome these challenges. Self-coaching encourages you to think outside the box, explore alternative perspectives, and find innovative solutions to problems.
  3. Greater Empowerment and Autonomy: Self-coaching puts you in the driver's seat of your personal growth journey. It fosters a sense of empowerment and ownership over one's life and development. Instead of relying on external sources for guidance, you become self-reliant and confident in your ability to navigate challenges and make decisions. This autonomy promotes a greater sense of control, freedom, and self-determination.
  4. Flexible and Personalized Approach: Self-coaching allows you to tailor the process to your unique needs, preferences, and circumstances. Unlike traditional coaching, self-coaching provides the freedom to explore personal insights, experiment with different strategies, and adapt the approach as needed. This flexibility enables you to create a coaching style that resonates with you, maximizing your growth potential.
  5. Lifelong Learning and Growth: Self-coaching is a lifelong skill that you can apply to various areas of your life. It encourages a growth mindset and a continuous pursuit of personal development. By becoming your own coach, you cultivate a habit of self-reflection, learning from your experiences, and continuously seeking opportunities for growth. Self-coaching equips you with the tools and mindset to adapt to change, embrace new challenges, and evolve throughout your life.
When you learn how to self coach yourself your chances of success in every area of your life increase.  Here are 5 ways that that will help

1. Clarity of Goals and Vision: Self-coaching helps individuals gain clarity about their goals, aspirations, and the vision they have for their lives. By engaging in self-reflection and asking powerful questions, individuals can define their objectives with precision and establish a clear roadmap toward success. This clarity increases their chances of success by providing a clear direction to focus their efforts and energy.

2. Personalized Strategies and Action Plans: Self-coaching allows individuals to design personalized strategies and action plans that are tailored to their unique strengths, interests, and circumstances. Instead of relying on generic approaches, individuals can leverage their self-awareness to identify the most effective methods to achieve their goals. This customized approach maximizes their chances of success by capitalizing on their individual strengths and minimizing potential obstacles.

3. Increased Accountability: Self-coaching cultivates a sense of accountability and personal responsibility. When individuals take on the role of both the coach and the coachee, they establish a strong commitment to their own success. By setting specific milestones, tracking progress, and holding themselves accountable for their actions, individuals become more motivated and driven to achieve their desired outcomes.

4. Self-Motivation and Resilience: Self-coaching fosters self-motivation and resilience, two crucial qualities for success. Through the process of self-reflection and goal-setting, individuals connect with their intrinsic motivations and the deeper reasons behind their aspirations. This internal drive helps individuals stay focused, overcome obstacles, and persevere in the face of setbacks or challenges.

5. Continuous Learning and Adaptability: Self-coaching promotes a mindset of continuous learning and adaptability. Individuals engage in ongoing self-reflection, seeking opportunities for growth and improvement. This mindset allows them to learn from their experiences, adjust their strategies as needed, and adapt to changing circumstances. By continuously honing their skills and expanding their knowledge, individuals increase their ability to navigate the path to success effectively.

Young Living Essential Oils I recommend for self-coaching are, Frankincense, Stress Away, Lavender, Peppermint, Citrus Fress, Lemon, and Peace and Calming.  HERE'S a link to check them out!

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Have an awesome week!




The Belief Factor. Do you know YOUR purpose?




Having a sense of purpose in life is essential for our overall well-being and fulfillment. It gives us a reason to wake up every day with motivation and enthusiasm. When we have a purpose, we have a clear goal or direction that guides our decisions and actions. It can give us a sense of meaning and satisfaction, as we feel like we are making a difference in the world or contributing to something greater than ourselves. 

A purpose can provide a sense of identity and help us understand our values and beliefs. It can also give us a sense of control and empowerment, as we take ownership of our lives and make decisions that align with our purpose.

Moreover, having a purpose in life can positively impact our mental and physical health. Studies have shown that people who have a sense of purpose have lower levels of stress and anxiety, are less likely to experience depression, and have better sleep quality. Having a purpose can also improve our cognitive function and brain health, as it gives us a reason to keep learning and growing. 

It can even prolong our lives, as research has linked a sense of purpose to a reduced risk of mortality. Overall, having a purpose in life is crucial for our well-being and can lead to a more fulfilling and meaningful life.

One way to find your purpose in life is to explore the things you are passionate about. Your passions are a great place to start when trying to identify your purpose because they are usually the things that give you the most joy and satisfaction. Start by making a list of the things you enjoy doing, the things that make you feel alive and engaged. Reflect on the times when you have lost track of time or felt completely immersed in an activity. These are often indications of your passions.

Once you have identified your passions, start thinking about how you can use them to make a positive impact on the world. For example, if you are passionate about writing, you could write articles or books that inspire people or help them solve problems. If you are passionate about music, you could use your talent to bring joy and entertainment to others, or you could write songs that convey meaningful messages. The key is to find ways to use your passions to contribute to something greater than yourself. By aligning your passions with a sense of purpose, you can find a fulfilling and meaningful way to live your life.

Here are five tips to find YOUR purpose in life!



  1. Explore your interests and passions: Start by making a list of the things you enjoy doing or the topics that you are passionate about. Consider what brings you joy, fulfillment, and a sense of accomplishment. Think about the activities that you could engage in for hours without getting bored. These are often good indicators of your passions and can help you identify potential paths to finding your purpose.
  2. Identify your core values: Reflect on the things that matter most to you in life, such as integrity, honesty, kindness, or compassion. Understanding your core values can help you make decisions that align with your beliefs and bring a sense of meaning to your life.
  3. Try new things: Experiment with new activities, hobbies, or career paths that you have not tried before. This can help you discover new interests and passions that you never knew existed. It may also help you gain new skills and experiences that could be useful in identifying your purpose.
  4. Reflect on your life experiences: Consider the challenges, setbacks, or successes that you have experienced in life. Reflect on the lessons learned and how they have shaped your perspective or values. These experiences can help you identify areas of interest or passion that you may want to pursue further.
  5. Seek guidance and support: Talk to trusted friends, family members, or mentors about your journey to finding your purpose. Seek their advice, feedback, or insights on your strengths, weaknesses, and areas of interest. They may be able to provide valuable guidance and support as you navigate the process of discovering your purpose.
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Are you sick of that old habit? It's time for a CHANGE!


Changing old habits and creating new ones can be a challenging but rewarding process. The key to success is to understand the habit loop and use it to your advantage. The habit loop consists of a cue, a routine, and a reward. The cue is the trigger that initiates the habit, the routine is the behavior or action that follows, and the reward is the positive outcome that reinforces the habit. To change an old habit, you need to identify the cue, find a new routine that satisfies the same reward, and repeat it until it becomes a new habit.

One effective way to change old habits and create new ones is to start small. Instead of trying to change everything at once, focus on one habit and work on it consistently. It's easier to make small changes that are sustainable over time than to try to make big changes that may be too overwhelming. For example, if you want to start exercising regularly, start with a 10-minute walk every day and gradually increase the duration and intensity of your workouts.

Another helpful strategy for changing old habits and creating new ones is to enlist support from others. Surround yourself with people who have similar goals and habits, and who will encourage and motivate you. You can also find an accountability partner who will hold you accountable for your actions and provide feedback and support when needed. Having a support system can make the habit change process more enjoyable and rewarding, and increase your chances of success.


Identifying triggers that initiate behavior we want to change is an essential step towards changing those behaviors. Triggers are the cues or signals that initiate the behavior we want to change, and they can be internal or external. Internal triggers are thoughts, feelings, or physical sensations that lead to the behavior, while external triggers are environmental cues that prompt the behavior. To identify triggers, it's important to pay close attention to our thoughts, feelings, and actions in different situations.

One effective way to identify triggers is to keep a journal or record of the behavior you want to change. Write down the date, time, and location of the behavior, as well as any thoughts, feelings, or physical sensations that occurred before and after the behavior. This will help you identify patterns and triggers that are associated with the behavior. For example, if you notice that you always eat junk food when you're feeling stressed, the trigger for your behavior may be stress.
Another helpful strategy for identifying triggers is to ask yourself questions that help you explore the reasons behind the behavior. For example, you can ask yourself, "What am I feeling right now?" "What thoughts are going through my mind?" "What events or situations led to this behavior?" By asking these questions, you can gain insight into the triggers that are leading to the behavior you want to change.

Finally, it can be helpful to seek feedback from others. Ask friends or family members to observe your behavior and provide feedback on what they notice. They may be able to identify triggers that you haven't noticed or provide a different perspective on the behavior you want to change.

The Essential oils I love to use when dealing with old habits are, Lavender, Clarity, and Inner Child.  Here's my link if you'd like to check out amazing pure essential oils! CLICK HERE

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10 Tips About the First of the Five "C's"

Mindfulness takes consistency and effort........... Kate Penwarn Thompson



Recently I was thinking about how I could explain to my clients about mindfulness, and mindset, in a way that made more sense and that was also a visual tool. I originally came up with the three "C's" and then it expanded into Five "C's". 

So what are these five things that can help you begin to change your mindset around the things you don't want and believe that you can create the things that you do want. The first "C" stands for Cancel. Let me tell you a little more about that.

Here are 5 tips on canceling a negative thought
  1. Acknowledge the thought and remind yourself that it is only a thought, not a fact.
  2. Acknowledge your feeling and let it pass through. 
  3. Take a few deep breaths and focus on the present moment.
  4. Practice gratitude daily to help shift your mindset to a more positive one.
  5. Talk to a friend or family member about the thought and get their perspective.
So let's take the first step. To acknowledge the thought you have be aware of it, which is being mindful. So many thoughts come through your brain every day and are generally very familiar therefore making it difficult to acknowledge if you're not practicing mindfulness.

Here’s 5 tips to practice mindfulness
  1. Focus on your breath: Take a few moments to simply focus on your breath and the sensation of inhaling and exhaling.
  2. Take a mindful walk: When you take a walk, pay attention to the sights, smells, and sounds around you. Notice how your body moves and shifts with each step. 
  3. Enjoy the present moment: Take a few moments to appreciate the little things in life. Notice the beauty around you, the taste of your food, the warmth of the sun.
  4. Practice acceptance: Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come up, and observe them without judgement.
  5. Set aside time for yourself: Dedicate some time each day to practice mindfulness. This could be as short as 10 minutes or as long as an hour.
Practicing these tips can help you to begin to CANCEL unwanted thoughts causing negative feelings that stop you from creating the things you desire. Learning to disrupt negative thoughts also increases your belief that you can achieve the desires of your heart.

Some essential Oils that help to increase awareness, lock in belief, and cancel negative thoughts are:  Clarity, Believe, Transformation, Inner Child, and my new favorite Inner Child.  You can go HERE to check out these oils from Young Living.

I have a whole online program that goes hand in hand with these principles. You can get a free guide HERE

Or you can jump to the program and check it out HERE!
I also have a few free consults available. If you struggle with moving forward, negative thoughts, or any combination, you can set up a free consult with me HERE! 

That's it for now! Have an awesome weekend!



10 Tips About the Law of Polarity

A winner is a dreamer who never gave up..........Nelson Mandela


Today we're going to talk about the 7the Law, the Law of Polarity. This law simply states that one is really two. 

What does the Law of Polarity mean?

The Law of Polarity states that everything in life has an opposite. This law can be applied to many different areas of life, from physical objects to feelings and emotions. It is a fundamental concept in many spiritual and metaphysical disciplines, and it suggests that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. 

It also suggests that for every force, there is an opposing force, and for every expression of energy, there is an equal and opposite expression of energy. This law can help us to better understand the world around us and the interactions between people.

What are five things that tell us we are not practicing the law of polarity?
  1. Not taking responsibility for our actions and their consequences. 
  2. Not recognizing the positive potential in every situation. 
  3. Not recognizing that we have the power to create our own reality. 
  4. Not understanding that we are all connected and have an effect on each other. 
  5. Not understanding that we can create a better world by choosing kindness and understanding over hatred and judgment.
When we are not taking care of thoughts that create actions we don't desire we are operating in 'lack' and therefore cannot reach our full potential. When we are mindful of our thoughts and feelings our outcomes are way more successful.
We have the potential and power to create what we desire, not what we don't. 

When we understand we are all connected and we do have an effect on each other and ourselves when we are choosing kindness instead of hatred or judgment. Judgment has no place in our lives as it prevents us from moving into what God and the Universe have planned for us. "Judgment is mine, says the Lord." Romans 12: 19-21.


What are 5 tips to practice the Law of Polarity?
  1. Identify your polarity - Be aware of the two sides of any issue or situation and accept them both.
  2. Develop your understanding - Take time to explore and understand the two sides of any polarity.
  3. Practice non-judgment - Refrain from judging either side of the polarity.
  4. Act with intention - Make conscious decisions in how you interact with the two sides of the polarity.
  5. Find balance - Aim to bring balance to the two sides of the polarity and create harmony.
Here are a few opposites that can and will affect your life if you choose the negative side.

Balance vs insecurity. If you are not balanced you are not grounded and this will cause extremes in thinking, feeling, acting, and outcome.
Joy vs Sadness. Choosing joyfulness and encouraging positive energy in times of restlessness and feeling uneasy.
Hopeful vs Hopeless. When you lose hope you lose sight of your visions, goals, and dreams. Choosing hope will help you to reconnect with a feeling of strength and grounding, restoring hope for tomorrow.

Mindful vs Oblivious. Being mindful, and practicing mindfulness, creates awareness of your thinking and helps to change patterns of not heeding thoughts that lead to unwelcome outcomes. Choosing to be mindful leads you to manifest your desires and uplifts your belief that you can achieve them.

Clarity vs Vagueness. Having clarity around where you desire to be in your life will always give you insight, instead of feeling like you are in a fog unable to make clear and precise decisions.

Some of the essential oils I recommend here are a blend of Frankincense, Lavender, and Stress Away. The components in these three oils can bring balance and grounding which stops us from going to extremes. It will also increase spiritual awareness, promote prayer and meditation, improve attitude, and uplift spirits. Another oil here is Peace and Calming, which helps with emotions like fear of losing control.

Other oils you might like to try are Joy, which speaks for itself, and Into the Future which inspires determination and a pioneering spirit to create a strong emotional feeling of being able to reach one's potential. Hope can be used to move forward, and Transformation reaches into the deepest recesses of memories as it empowers and upholds changes you desire to make in your belief system.

That's it for today have an awesome week!

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